02/08/2022
True defination of a loved dog..
This, probably more than anything else, is what’s at the core of most human/dog issues.
We tend to view love as giving our dogs whatever they want/desire, and hope (or expect) that that will translate to our dogs feeling loved, safe, and happy. Sadly, these good intentions typically cause our dogs to become ill-behaved bullies, chaotic wrecks, and even neurotic basket cases.
Not a very loving outcome.
Dogs, like human children, don’t flourish from getting everything they request or desire, and from pushing rules and not receiving adequate pushback. They feel unsafe (because no one is in charge), they develop anti-social behavior (because no one has enforced pro-social behavior), and they end up suffering for our skewed take on “love” (choose your behavior issue and/or neurosis).
Truth is, some owners (parents) don’t know any better, and some do but it find it too much work, and others find the personal rewards of witnessing the momentary “joy” which comes from allowance/enabling too irresistible to resist.
If you’re experiencing issues with your dog, perhaps it’s time to more deeply examine how you view love.
PS, for all those who will feel the need to tell me they spoil their dogs and have no issues, please be aware that there are always exceptions—dogs who you can get away with all manner of nonsense with, with little to no fallout, which I’m well aware of—and that the generalized assessment I’m making isn’t about you and your exception…it’s about the majority of non-exceptions who are struggling and suffering. Try to bear that in mind prior to feeling the need to let the world know how happy, healthy, and amazingly well-behaved your spoiled dog is.