05/07/2025
Six years ago this week, Kona walked into my life, and changed everything.
I still remember that first day like it was wrapped in golden light...
No puppy breath, though. Just serious stinky farts (shelter food life ๐
).
The realities are rough, and yet the volunteers still show up, feeding hundreds of souls like her. โค๏ธ
She was curious about humans, highly reactive to other dogsโฆ
and I was instantly hers anyway.
And yetโฆ this week?
Iโve barely kept up with our walks.
Iโve skipped our cuddle ritual more than once.
Because Iโve been deep in creating the kind of bonus I wish I had ~
for single women and their dogs.
And the guilt hit hard.
That classic dog mom guiltโthe one that whispers:
โYouโre showing up for everyone elseโฆ but what about ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ?โ
But hereโs the re-frame Iโm clinging to (and offering to you, too):
๐พ ๐๐๐๐๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ was born to relieve that guilt.
Itโs for the busy, big-hearted woman who wants a responsive, regulated, joyful dog WITHOUT giving up her softness, her presence, or her values.
Training doesnโt have to feel like punishment.
Or like youโre trading connection for control.
Or neglecting joy, friendships, dating, or other passions just to be โa good dog mom.โ
It can feel like ease.
Like exhale.
Like being in sync.
And Kona?
She always forgives.
But even she prefers a walk where sheโs not bribed with chimken ๐ mid-panicโฆ
Or being led by a hooman mentally drafting emails while holding the leash.
If youโre carrying the guilt tooโฆ
Youโre not alone.
Letโs release the shame and become the calm, grounded hooman your dog already believes you are. ๐
๐ธ: 2019, 1st of July. By