17/07/2025
Why I Don’t Aim for My Dog to Be ‘Happy’ All the Time
In modern society, there’s a strong emphasis on happiness, often portrayed as the ultimate emotional goal. This mindset has, understandably, carried over into how we think about our dogs. We want them to be happy, to enjoy life, and to thrive. But happiness, by its nature, is fleeting. Chasing it as a constant state can lead to unrealistic expectations for both us and our dogs.
What I aim for instead is emotional wellbeing. I want my dogs to feel secure, curious, calm, and to experience a full and healthy emotional life. That doesn’t mean exposing them to distress or fear, but rather allowing space for natural emotional variation. Not every moment needs to be exciting or joyful and that’s not only okay, it’s essential.
As Derren Brown writes in Happy,
"The pursuit of happiness as a constant state is both futile and harmful. Life is richer when we allow ourselves to experience the full range of emotions."
Similarly, psychologist Dr. Russ Harris notes in The Happiness Trap, “The expectation that we should feel happy all the time is a modern sickness.” The same applies to our dogs. A meaningful life includes moments of stillness, uncertainty, and exploration, not just constant pleasure.
In short, I don’t aim for ‘happy’ dogs. I aim for dogs who are emotionally supported, resilient, and able to experience life in all its richness.
Happiness is not a goal... it’s a by-product of a life well lived.”
Eleanor Roosevelt"