Pause 4 Paws

29/10/2026

Do you want to build a deep relationship with your dog? Do you want them to ask you for help rather than finding a way to cope alone. Drop me a whats app today and we can see if this journey is right for you both.

26/10/2026

This is Bear upside down on my lap. You might be thinking cute dog. I was thinking wow he is upside down on me with this vulnerable areas exposed ( some thing we call the trust zone ) and he hasn't bitten me. This is a big thing for a dog so let down by his previous caregiver/owner that even relaxing in to laying down with you meant biting. That is how he was when we first rescued him and he allowed himself to relax with a human. It was so scarey, he either had to bite to regulate himself or bite to control the situation. The later usually ended up drawing blood. There are many things he does to try and self regulate because no one showed him how to ask for help and to regulate in relationship. So he ate the rug, he ripped up blankets, he chewed or hu**ed the sofa. He took down tree branches to chew on or ripped up grass. Now he will ask for help, he comes and asks for me to regulate him and I actively offer when I can see him struggling but sometimes he chews to cope. He chooses this because its never let him down, a rug has never grabbed him by the collar and used extreme force, a rug never says I'm busy or disappears when he needs it most but people have. A rug doesn't zone out doom scrolling on it's phone while he is left to cope alone. I live in a busy house with a lot that needs my co regulation so sometimes I am not there when he needs me. Sometimes I am there with a cup so empty I have nothing left to give. That is rough some days but I know I am doing my best and that has to be good enough. Because the alternative is he wouldn't be alive, he wouldn't be upside down on the sofa being able to relax with someone who gives all she can when ever she can ( or snoring on it behind me while I type) What does this mean for his repair, its slow and sometimes he tries to use a branch, rip a blanket or hump a sofa cushion. But that is ok and now when he tries that he knows it wont work as well as co regulating with his person so he starts there and I close the loop with me and him having a chest rub and me bringing him back into balance with my nervous system. That doesn't always happen in the moment but I try and make sure it happens eventually. What does your dog do to cope when he struggles?

22/10/2026

Does your dog's behaviour have you tearing your hair out or would you just like to know why they do what they do? Join me on a 6 month journey to understanding your dog and building a deeper connection.

19/10/2026

As the 5th person walked past the house this hour and your head hurts from the constant barking, you find yourself yelling "shut up its only a person . what is wrong with you " But in these moments to them it might be a threat, they don't know what to do, their person keeps shouting too and is very up set by the persons presence so it must be a problem.

So what can we do, validate and role model. Take a look, oh yes its Barbara three doors down. I see her and im ok with her passing, say it out loud. We can offer reassurance and role model how we want them to feel about Barbara. It may feel like we are constantly repeating ourselves to start with, especially if they have been at the window a lot. Next time it might be a couple of barks and an ok helps them feel heard, helps them process big feelings and starts a new pattern and they start to feel a little better about the passing Barbaras. Check out my blog below.

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09/10/2026

09/10/2026

Such a powerful nervous system exercise, the fear and panic of loosing someone and then the joy of finding them again creates the up and down. Do you play hide and seek with your dogs?

07/10/2026

Bear was watching a tractor in the field rather than reacting in this picture , I had told him I had seen it and it was fine just before this. He can watch now and process, take guidance rather than chase and bark. This morning he was wrestling my old gsd and got too much for her, she told him to stop, he had stopped listening so I asked him to stop too. He came flying up asked me to regulate him because he realised he couldn't. He didn't bite the sofa and he didn't redirect on me with his teeth nor did he rip up his blanket. He asked me to help. He lay next to me on the sofa and when he has calm he got off and wandered out the room. A massive thing for a pup who had been mistreated and didn't trust humans to help as they only hurt him before we rescued him. If you would like to read a bit about bears journey have a read of my blog.

https://pause4paws.co.uk/meet-bear

06/10/2026

Pulling your hair out because your dog barks, lunges or rips up your sofa? Join my 6 month course and find out how these coping methods are no different from us va**ng, chewing our nails or never slowing down. They make our dogs feel safe but through building a solid relationship we can help them feel safe to ask us for help rather than cope alone. My foundation course will give you the tools to make a change, help you regulate your dog and repair any gaps in their development.
Contact me to today to find out if it's right for you .

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We help create a relationship based on trust and safety with your dog, helping to avoid the need for lunging, barking or separation anxiety

26/09/2026

Had a lovely day brushing up on my canine first aid skills today. A brilliant course with Rachel Bean. Great way to spend a Saturday, meeting lovely people and cuddling some new dogs is always a bonus.

08/09/2026

I hope we do better. Educate our kids to respect and nurture our animals from a place of relationship, not be the boss and control.