28/06/2017
Hello friends,
I do hope this finds you all well. I spent this past weekend at a dog psychology and behaviour course, and thought I would share some of my thoughts with you.
- The main thing I learned was that calm, assertive (note: not impatient, aggressive, or soppy!) energy is the best thing for your dog; it is what their pack-leader would have shown them. I struggle with this as I just want to lavish love on Pumpkin, but he doesn’t understand that and it’s not necessarily good for him; dogs understand being led and working for a reward. So training them, making them work (I don’t mean asking them to spend a 9-5 day in accounting! More, getting them to sit and calm down) before you feed/cuddle/play with them makes sense to them and they respond well to it.
- If dogs display nervous or aggressive behaviour, it’s not about removing the trigger (i.e. fireworks/cats/food) but dealing with the reaction. You could try gradually introducing them to triggers in a positive way – for example, play firework sounds on YouTube, very low, and play with your dogs while they’re on. Gradually increase the sound while still playing with them, then eventually when they hear fireworks they’ll associate it with something positive.
- Dogs are used to waiting for affection - they had to wait for food from their mother. Waiting calms them down. Don’t feel bad about making them wait!
- Other than expressing fear or excitement, dogs mostly communicate in silence – they read energy and body language (so clever!); this is the best way to communicate with them.
- The thing I found most helpful was when we were told to see the lead/leash as a telephone line – whatever we are feeling will transfer to our dog. So, if we’re feeling anxious, impatient, frustrated, angry – whatever - that will all travel to our dogs when we walk them. They are such insightful creatures! So, we were told – do not even pick up that lead if you are feeling anything negative. I know this isn’t really practical (sometimes, your dog just needs a walk even if you don’t feel like it!) but if we can maybe take a few minutes just to calm ourselves before we walk them, I’m sure we’d all have a better experience!
- We were also told that dogs don’t have personalities, and that we shouldn’t talk to, touch, or have eye-contact with dogs when we first meet them; there are some cases where I think this may be appropriate. I’m no expert, but for most dogs, I firmly disagree with this. Perhaps ‘personality’ is a human projection, but all of the dogs I’ve known have certainly had their own characters! I think we do need to be mindful and sensitive to different behaviours, but if a dog wants love I reckon we should just give it – they’re here for such a short time and should get all the love they want!
I hope this was slightly helpful, but if you have any more questions, please do ask – I’ll do my best to help or direct you to someone who can!
With love and good wishes,
Emily