Jemma Whitlam Equestrian Coaching

Jemma Whitlam Equestrian Coaching Riding and fitness coach. Improving equestrians performance to be the rider their horse deserves

Why can’t I just stick to the plan?It keeps going round and round in my head and I can’t figure out how to make the deci...
10/07/2025

Why can’t I just stick to the plan?

It keeps going round and round in my head and I can’t figure out how to make the decision.

I feel like life is spiralling out of control and I’m struggling to stay on top of everything.

It’s all gone to s@£t and I don’t know what to do next.

I can feel myself self sabotaging and I don’t know what to do about it.

I can’t seem to follow through on what I say, I always end up letting myself down and I don’t want that to happen again.

The relationship isn’t what I want it to be but I don’t know what’s going on and how to start the conversation.

I thought I’d be further on by now. What if it’s too late.

I sort of know what I want but I don’t really believe it’s possible. I have no idea where to even start.

All themes of conversations that I have had with clients. Some who have specifically approached me for life coaching, others as part of a riding lesson, during a massage or as one of my online strength and fitness clients on a coaching call.

All that I’ve helped people to find the answers to. Using questions, reflection, repeating back what I’ve heard, sometimes advice and support. Sometimes a place to be heard and truly listened to.

Mindset matters, what is going on in your head affects your whole life.

Those unmade decisions, niggly worries, time spent second guessing, doubting yourself and letting your thoughts get in the way of who you want to be - they all cost energy, time, effort and headspace that could be much better spent elsewhere.

What if you were just a conversation away from solving that and freeing yourself up for more important things.

I have space available for 5 free coaching conversations over the next 3 weeks.
Bring your biggest problem and free yourself up for 30 minutes and let’s talk.

DM me or comment “yes please” below to find out more.

If you feel like you sometimes struggle to find your voice and feel truly heard then drop me a message. Maybe I can help...
08/07/2025

If you feel like you sometimes struggle to find your voice and feel truly heard then drop me a message. Maybe I can help.

07/07/2025

The motivation vs discipline debate…The question I ask… What does strength and fitness training give me?Freedom. Yes it’s a commitment, yes it takes time and effort and consistency. No I don’t always feel like it. Sometimes I’m tired and I want to stay in bed or curl up on the sofa. But that little bit of effort is worth it because it gives me freedom. From aches and pains, From feeling stiff when I get up in the morning To be able to do anything I want physically (the sport, the hike, the run)To try new things without wondering if my body will break To pick up my kids, throw them on my shoulders and run around with them. To get up and down off the floor without groaningTo run up and down the stairs for the 10th time before the school run to get the final thing we’ve forgotten. That commitment to a future version of me is what makes the effort worth it…What makes the effort worth it to you?

Old me would be feeling guilty right now.I’d scroll through FB or insta and see loads of people on big days out with the...
06/07/2025

Old me would be feeling guilty right now.

I’d scroll through FB or insta and see loads of people on big days out with their kids, or doing something wholesome and feel like I’d failed a bit or wasn’t being a good enough mum.

The last month has been hectic. A lot going on, all good stuff, but it’s been full on.

Working most evenings, feeling like I’m constantly playing catch up, never ending early wake ups because we have a Dexter.

This weekend Chris was away and I crashed hard. Tired, headache and even a bit of a stomach ache this morning.
Nothing serious but my body definitely telling me that it needs a break.

And I know that if we’d gone anywhere I would have easily been overstimulated, grumpy and very impatient.
I did apologise to them both in advance yesterday and Scarlett even said at one point something along the lines of “we’re coming grumpy”. Probably one of only 2 people that would have got away with that without me ripping her head off (it actually made me laugh).

So this weekend we’ve been to the yard both mornings (obviously, the horses don’t care that I’m tired 😂).
We saw their cousins yesterday afternoon where they played with water balloons and all entertained themselves (and I got a lovely manicure from Nina).

This afternoon…?
TV time. It was raining, they’ve been busy, I’ve been busy so we just chilled and watched (well, they did, I may have had a nap on the sofa). Scarlett of course played on her gymnastics bar too.

I knew I was at capacity and I made a choice that I think was the best one for all of us today.

Would I want to do it every week? No.
Do i feel bad for how today went? No.

Not every day has to be social media worthy.
And you are allowed to put your needs at least equal to your children’s.

I’d love to know what I’ve been up to whether it’s social media worthy or just normal life…

As a personal trainer you’d think I’d be on it with the training. Never missing a session, practically living in the gym...
05/07/2025

As a personal trainer you’d think I’d be on it with the training. Never missing a session, practically living in the gym.

Recently though, I’d lost my love of training a bit and was trying to bring the fun back. But then life got very hectic and I didn’t have a plan that was fitting around that so I wasn’t managing to “fit it in”.

It’s the reason I created Reignite 28.
28 days of 15 minute workouts that are easy to fit in around real life.
I’m doing it alongside my clients and I’m loving it. I can always find 15 minutes and sometimes I even end up carrying my session on and doing a bit more.

No matter how long your training sessions are the key is the programme.
- Hitting the different muscle groups and movement patterns,
- progressing the exercises
- and making sure each muscle group gets chance to rest.

Using supersets and circuits you’d be amazed at how much you can still get done in a 15 minute home workout and having a plan and a structure (and my own videos to follow along to) makes it dead easy to just crack on.

This weekend I’m opening the doors again, because I’m loving it so much and so is everyone in the group.

So if you want 28 days of core focussed, structured workouts,
that don’t need any equipment
and are easy to fit into your life,

comment 28 below and I’ll send you the info.
It’s £28, an absolute no brainer…

I’m currently at The Amplifier Action Day with my coach .The theme of today’s event is “Becoming The Leader That Your Cl...
04/07/2025

I’m currently at The Amplifier Action Day with my coach .

The theme of today’s event is “Becoming The Leader That Your Clients Deserve”, and we’re talking about the importance of sharing and celebrating our wins.

So in the interest of leading by example, here are my top 5 wins of 2025 so far:

1. Amazing trip to Nice with my oldest friends to celebrate turning 40 (great time, great food and the best company)

2. Spent Easter weekend in Great Yarmouth with family (swimming, beaches, theme park and lots of fun)

3. Hit my financial target for q2

4. Did a keynote talk in front of over 150 people (and freaking loved it)

5. Launched stuff (programmes, bootcamps etc)/ tried stuff/ put more stuff out there without pinning all my self worth on whether they went well or not

What win have you achieved that you are most proud of from this year?

I refuse to make the same mistake again.Years ago, someone asked me.“If you could do anything with this, what would it b...
03/07/2025

I refuse to make the same mistake again.

Years ago, someone asked me.
“If you could do anything with this, what would it be?”

And I froze.

I had an answer, but all I could think of were reasons it wouldn’t work.
I’d love to do that, but…

I’m not experienced enough.
I haven’t competed at a high enough level.
No one knows who I am. (Etc etc blah blah).

All the little whispers from that voice in my head that thought it was protecting me.
Really, it stopped me trying.

I didn’t go for it.
And now, I’ll never know if I could’ve made it happen, because I never tried.

That voice didn’t stop me from failing.
It stopped me from even having the chance to succeed.

Luckily I have the tools (and the support) now to shut that insidious little voice up (most of the time).

So this time I’m going all in because I know in the long run that is the safer option, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

I don’t want to get 10 years down the line again and wonder what I was capable of, if I could’ve made it work.

What is the little voice in your head trying to talk you out of right now?

You don’t have to listen to it. In fact, you’ll probably be better off in the long run if you don’t…

Me and Roxy made it out for the first time this year. A fun afternoon of showjumping training. Back for more tomorrow. M...
11/06/2025

Me and Roxy made it out for the first time this year. A fun afternoon of showjumping training. Back for more tomorrow.

Might even look for a show to go to soon.

23/04/2025

Tension doesn’t have to be your normal.
Whether it’s stress, sore muscles, or just needing a moment to reset, your body will thank you for taking time out.

✨ Appointments available Friday this week (25th April) and Tuesday (29th) and Friday (2nd May) next week.
📍 Rothwell, Northants
📩 Message to book.

It’s always beach weather. You may just need to wear some extra layers…
21/04/2025

It’s always beach weather. You may just need to wear some extra layers…

I do miss this and I sometimes love the idea of getting back to it but I’m not sure if I’d actually have the guts to do ...
20/04/2025

I do miss this and I sometimes love the idea of getting back to it but I’m not sure if I’d actually have the guts to do it at this level anymore…

I used to get my adrenaline kicks week in week out and I now wonder why i sometimes feel a bit lost and not like myself and dare I say it even a bit dissatisfied at times (can’t believe I just admitted that).

The thing that I’ve found has helped me through it is other ways of getting that adrenaline rush. Physical challenges that I wasn’t 100% sure that I’d be capable of (the buzz when you smash it and find you can is pretty unbeatable).

We get to a certain age and/or become mums and forget that we still need to get a kick out of life.

Those of you who are like me, who love adrenaline, who get a kick out of being just a little bit scared or nervous, pushing yourself just out of your comfort zone…

Are you still doing stuff that gives you that kick?

I’d not I’d love to know why?

Is it time?
Needing people to do it with?
Not feeling fit enough or strong enough?
Worrying that your body isn’t as capable now?
Being scared of actually testing yourself in case it’s harder than you think it “should” be.

I have a tough mudder lined up later in the year but think I need a couple of other things lined up and I’m looking for people who might want to join me for some fun. If that might be you then let me know. Either in the comments or send me a DM just letting me know you’re interested.

Sun, sea and sand. It doesn’t get much better (ok, maybe the wind could have died down and it could have been a smidge w...
18/04/2025

Sun, sea and sand. It doesn’t get much better (ok, maybe the wind could have died down and it could have been a smidge warmer).

Looking forward to a long weekend of beach, swimming (maybe even in the sea…) and family time to switch off and unwind a bit (not something I find that easy).

Obviously no pics of me as I was the only one taking photos 😂.

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