15/06/2024
I prefer to use the term ‘Teach'’ rather than ‘Train.'
Even when I began my 'dog training' career I had an issue with the word 'Train.'
The word ‘Train’ seems to have a harsh edge around it, like training for a marathon, a new career or something that needs a lot of hard effort. A goal that needs to be reached.
The word ‘Teach’ is different. I see ‘teach’ as a gentler, more open term. It suggests we can be patient, understanding and at times accepting.
Our modern day dogs are becoming more anxious.
I see it everywhere, The dog who is scared of walking along a busy road, the dog who is scared of getting into the car, the dog who is scared of walking his local route due to an overload of other dogs.
And of course, dogs that are scared of being alone.
In an age of noise and overwhelm can we blame our dogs for being anxious?
Maybe we too feel anxiety and understand perfectly how our dogs are feeling. Maybe we are desperate to help them but are unable to know how to move forwards.
Here's the thing though - we can teach our dogs to learn about our world in a way that's not scary or frightening. We can allow them to explore, to learn and investigate at their own pace without any demands of them other than to be fully allowed to display their natural and wonderful behaviours.
It does take a special kind of commitment to our dogs though. A commitment that means we are deeply connected to what our dogs are telling us even if we ourselves are struggling. A commitment that means we set up daily routines to support our dogs anxieties and undertand fully what triggers or upsets them.
Having a dog with separation anxiety is hard on us.
Having a dog with reactivity when on walks is hard on us.
Having a dog who is highly anxious of nosies, new places, other dogs, children, traffic, is hard on us.
But because of our special commitment we work with our dog to help them with patience and kindness. Even when we don't understand what they are telling us and have no idea what is going on in their lovely heads we still show that love, commitment and reassurance because ultimaely we know that is what they need.
To feel safe. Not to work towards some training goal.
Teach not Train .
Clare - Spaniel Speak