24/06/2025
Such an important reminder to go at your own and your horse's pace. It might not look like some of the polished instagram reels out there, but try and find the small successes and celebrate those. Horses, just like us, are individuals, and they have good and bad days, baggage, emotions etc. It's hard sometimes to listen to your horse instead of what people around you might say and/or do with their horses, I can absolutely relate to that! But try and remember that you are on your and your horse's journey together, no one else ❤️
Work with the horse you have, not the horse you wish you had.
We live in a world full of polished social media posts showing horses doing impressive things (as well as some that make my eyes bleed), and it’s easy to feel like you’re not cutting it. Easy to feel your horse should be further along, more advanced, or less... behind. Easy to feel you're not a good enough guardian.
But some horses need to go really slowly. Some take weeks to feel comfortable with a new protocol. Some come with baggage. Some have been misunderstood for so long that they don’t trust us to get it right. That’s not a training flaw. It’s just the reality for that horse.
And once you stop fighting it, it can become something really beautiful.
There’s this idea that progress moves in a straight line. That if we do everything 'right', things will keep improving one step at a time. But with some horses, you need to take a step forward and then stop to let things settle. Or you go backwards for a bit, and that gives you the opening you needed to move forward in a different way. That isn’t losing ground, it’s following the pace that works for that horse to learn.
One of my dogs has taken years to confidently touch a target with his nose. I haven’t been training it that whole time. We’ve done lots of other things, and I’ve waited until he was ready. When he finally offered that touch, it felt like a huge milestone. Not because it was flashy, but because of everything it told me about how he felt now compared to before.
There’s nothing wrong with going slowly. There’s no deadline. You’re not in a competition. You’re not less of a trainer because your horse isn’t 'advanced.' Some of the best trainers spend months helping a horse feel safe just walking into the school. It doesn’t make for sexy social media content, but it’s extraordinary work.
It’s OK if your horse isn’t 'there' yet. Wherever 'there' even is.
Don’t let this be an 'excuse' not to train. Celebrate quiet training that meets your horse where they are.
Thanks to the handsome Jim for, well, just being Jim ❤