06/11/2026
Just because your dog tolerates hugs and kisses doesn’t mean they’re comfortable with them. Dogs don’t naturally enjoy us invading their space and wrapping our arms around them.
As canids, dogs simply don’t put their limbs over or around each other to show affection in the same way we do as apes. Legs up and over is very imposing and threatening behaviour in dog language.
Instead of hugs like ours, dogs choose to sit alongside each other to show affection and seek social closeness.
This is just one of the many ways we add stress to our dogs’ lives unintentionally. And it’s that stress that is responsible for pretty much every behavioural struggle, be it barking, lunging, pulling on the lead, jumping up at people or restlessness at home — or anything else!
If you want a better behaved dog, you need a dog that you aren’t unintentionally stressing out repeatedly through clumsy human communication. You need to start spotting early signs of stress and speaking back to them in a way they naturally understand.
If you’d like to learn more about communicating with your dog in a way that reduces stress and increases two-way understanding, head to the link in my bio to book your space on my free webinar on Communicating With Your Dog.
I also suspect that even your dog (yes, you) who loves a cuddle might not be quite so keen on having your arms wrapped around their neck and being physically restricted. What they probably love is being close to you, leaning against you, lying on you and choosing that social contact for themselves. There’s a difference 👀