
25/04/2025
A question of boundaries -
(Because it's been a while since I put my two cents forward)
I don't think we need any introduction to the obvious size difference between humans and horses, nor the obvious risk imposed when a flight animal takes flight(!)
I think it's fair to say we have all seen it happen and a lot of us have experienced it first hand.
When it comes to the discussion around boundaries, increasingly I feel the word boundaries is becoming synonymous with the trope of [asserting your] dominance -
Yet another expression of the human viewpoint where the human is always the protagonist seeking to show the horse "how to be"
But the question I wish to pose is this -
When we find ourselves in the situation where the horse is displaying undesirable behaviours, how appropriate is it for the horse to have been put in that situation in the first place?
My experience when it comes to boundaries are, it's not that you need to assert your boundaries, it's more that you have exceeded your horse's capabilities to deal with the given situation.
And I think the misunderstanding I see so regularly in the horse world isn't doing too much vs doing too little or
"Real horsemanship vs fantasy horsemanship"
It's that if we really truly are wanting to push forward with ethical training, in line with an honest assessment of behavioural indicators,
Then we have to get very comfortable with regressing the expectation in line with what the horse is capable of in that moment, and then building from there.
This is not passive - it's not doing nothing.
But it also isn't wealding a whip or a flag or chasing your horse round in circles until they stand still, lick and chew.
It's being objective with where your horse is at, where you want to be and finding a reasonable path through to that point.
That there is a whole spectrum available to you and all of it matters, even if you enjoy some elements more than others -
Practicing when to be still, grounding yourself and communing with the horse.
Letting your horse move and moving with them.
Positioning your body to be effective.
Finding timing - when to use a cue, when to wait, when to reduce your ask.
And something that's overlooked: practicing, getting it wrong, forgiving yourself and moving on and equally, doing a little less and seeing where it gets you.
For me, the skill isn't in getting there, the skill is doing it in such a way that the horse actually wants to be there too.
Where you aren't discussing 'boundaries' because your horse is so far under threshold that there really is nothing to talk about.
📸 Olivia Rose Photography