12/03/2025
Thank you for always advocating for our pets & companions Frisky Feline Behavior Counseling.
🔥 AS A CAT BEHAVIOR CONSULTANT, I NEED TO SAY THIS LOUDLY: Please—listen to the cat in front of you.🔥
Every day I see cats being pushed past their comfort zones not because people are unkind, but because the cat’s signals are missed or misunderstood. And the cats pay the price for that.
When a cat’s eyes are dilated, when their ears flatten or swivel, when they hiss, growl, swat, cling with their nails, pull away, or their tail flicks sharply— 👉 they are telling you they are uncomfortable.
This is communication. This is a request for space.
So many scratches and bites that seem “sudden” are actually the result of ignored warning signs. If a cat learns that hissing or pulling away doesn’t work—that people will keep touching anyway—what choice do they have left?
We encourage humans to set boundaries. We tell people they never have to accept unwanted hugs or touches.
So WHY don't cats deserve that same respect?
WHY cant they say NO?
It breaks my heart how often I see videos of stressed, cornered cats crouching away, growling while being pet because the human wants to touch them—even while the cat is begging for space. These cats aren’t being “spicy.” Nor are they aggressive. They’re scared or they’re overwhelmed. They’re trying their best to cope with a situation they are being forced into.
Please understand:
💛 It is completely okay for a cat not to want physical contact.
💛 It is completely okay for a cat not to be a lap cat.
💛 Not every cat enjoys petting—and that doesn’t make them bad or difficult. We can LOVE in other ways.
We need to stop forcing every cat into a mold of what we think a “friendly” cat should be. They are individuals. They have boundaries. They have feelings JUST LIKE WE DO!
And their signals matter.
If we want safer interactions, fewer “behavior issues,” fewer returns, fewer misunderstandings—and a stronger bond.....
we must start respecting what cats are telling us.
Listen to them.
Love them for them, not who we want them to be.
Give them the space they’re asking for.
It’s one of the kindest things we can do for them. 🐾💛