01/04/2026
Starting off 2026 with a real one! 😬
In just a few days we’ve moved from zero trust and pretty serious intent to eliminate me…
To trust slowly building and willingness to come toward me, and even take items from my hand!
// as opposed to taking my hand off entirely 😅 //
These are small steps in the right direction, with the end goal of Ember being able to trust the world enough to truly let her guard down and enjoy the important things
👉🏼 like sticks and air scents 🪵
We did not get here with pressure via treats, forced affection, or baby talk. 🙅🏼♀️
Ember learned that I’m a safe person because I did the exact opposite of that. I remained quiet, grounded in my boundaries, and indifferent to her drama. 🥱
I didn’t pressure her to have a “positive association” with me whatsoever, nor did I take her advances on me personally.
By simply allowing her to exist and observe me without pressure to like me, she learned that my nature is predictable and steady. She never has to guess what our interactions will feel like, or where my boundaries are. She knows what I will and won’t accept, and that my mood is unaffected by hers.
This degree of consistency, predictability, and competence during chaos, completely eliminates her need to overthink or overreact.
No treats. No kissy noises. No Prozac. No pressure.
Our dogs are desperate for this kind of leadership. ❤️