02/18/2024
This!! Goal-setting can certainly be at odds with good horsemanship. Put your horse first and goals second. Or think of it as making your horsemanship your priority “goal” so if you do right by your horse, you always win!
When goal setting meets horse training…
Personal development is a growing industry and encompasses skill enhancement, personal growth, career, spirituality, lifestyle, and wellness. It’s actually called “self-improvement industry” or “self-help industry”.
The idea of never-ending self-improvement is a beautiful thing, isn’t it? Ever growing, developing, learning…
Maybe this is a bit of an unpopular opinion, but I sometimes ask myself if that kind of mindset is the right one for horse training.
To me, the underlying assumption is that the way we are, we are not enough. That if we just improve enough, improve the next thing, we will be happy.
We read the latest books about self-management, watch lectures on Youtube, and constantly listen to audiobooks and podcasts. We improve our nervous system, our business practices, our fitness, our relationships. Nothing is safe from being improved.
Horses are just the opposite. They are content the way they are (given they live in appropriate circumstances). They rest in themselves. All they need is forage, friends, and freedom. While I do believe they enjoy feeling good in their body through good training practices, I have my doubts that they would actively seek self-improvement.
Don’t get me wrong, I do have goals. And I have met every single one of my personal goals last year. But we have to be careful when we apply the same goal setting strategies to horse training. I know, because I have done so, and it has led to a lot of frustration for the horses and for me.
It’s good to have a plan and to be aware of what you are doing. It’s also good to keep developing. We do better when we know better.
However, I also know lots of equestrians who put themselves and the horses under a lot of stress due to the constant and never ending need for improvement. They feel overwhelmed. They never take a breath, they never enjoy what they have. They don’t let things be. They are always on the lookout for the next thing.
When I am overly committed to my goals, I loose my sense of intuition. My mind is restless and because of constantly chasing after the next improvement, I miss out on the moment.
Why do we have horses? Because we feel good in their presence!
Horses can help us to connect to nature and to our own nature. To be in the moment and to let go of expectations. But we have to allow it.
I think what many of us need is not more, but less. Less worrying, less comparing ourselves to others (and what they have achieved with their horses), less pressure to perform, less ambition.
And the funny thing is, that when we can let go, things will appear on their own.
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