
08/12/2025
They actually don’t need us as much as we think and hope they would.
Clear directions, support and stay outta their way!
When I was younger, I had a lot of challenging horses serve me a lot of humble pie.
Any time I’d get a little too cocky, they were there to remind me I still had a lot to learn.
But in a way, they also fed my ego…
After all, I got to take so much credit for their mental and physical transformations!
As I mature, I’m starting to experience that it’s the talented ones who can humble us the most, if we let them.
When we realize the best thing we can do is stay the heck out of their way.
When we realize how little they need us.
But let me tell you, getting to step back and watch them thrive in their own glory is more rewarding than any hard-earned ‘win’ with a challenging horse.
I love how this guy has intuitively transferred all his knowledge of balance from the halter and hackamore into the snaffle the past few days.
It’s been almost effortless, and I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that he’s gathering information from working the slack of the rein, hindquarters to shoulders, which is a very similar feeling to ridden cues, and not having to rely solely on the headgear.
This is why I prioritize working back to front in my riding and my groundwork.
Applying French principles like descente de main and the weight of the rein has crept into all of my horsemanship, and I cultivate it in my lunging and advanced double lunging by utilizing corners, so that they can start to work their own drape, especially when I’m introducing new ideas or new equipment.
It’s little things like this that set them up to navigate something new so they don’t need us.