04/18/2026
Mmmmm...what do you think?
If a stranger walked up and asked to touch your child, what would you do? Would you smile and say sure, my daughter is friendly! Go ahead and pet her hair!
Uh, no. I would momma bear the crap out of that situation. No way, a stranger is touching my kid.
Why is it different for dogs?
From a veterinary behavior standpoint, an unfamiliar person reaching toward a dog is not a neutral interaction. It is a social and physical intrusion that the dog must interpret in real time.
Some might like it.
Many dogs will tolerate it.
Many will try to avoid it.
Others—especially those with fear, anxiety, pain, or a history of threat—may escalate.
Aggression is not unpredictable. It is a distance-increasing behavior that occurs when a dog perceives a loss of safety and control.
When we assume access—without consent—we remove choice.
When we remove choice, we increase stress.
And when stress rises, risk follows.
This is why “friendly” is not a sufficient assessment.
This is why bites often occur during routine interactions.
This is why prevention starts before contact is made.
The standard should be simple:
Dogs just like kids are not public property. No one has the right to pet your dog no matter how much they profess that dogs love them.
Not because dogs are dangerous—
but because they are sentient beings with thresholds, histories, and limits.
Respecting that boundary protects the dog, the handler, and the public.
And that is good behavioral medicine.