16/08/2026
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Inconvenient Reality Avoidance Disorder๐ฅน
I'd like to introduce a condition I have invented that I suspect every horse owner, including me, suffers from occasionally.
*Inconvenient Reality Avoidance Disorder.*
IRAD.๐
The principal symptom is simple:
โก๏ธYou desperately want an outcome, but would really rather not participate in the process required to produce it.
You want the horse to be sound, safe, confident, load easily, hack out and generally become the delightful creature currently residing in your imagination.
Excellent.
Unfortunately, reality occasionally sends through some paperwork.
"This probably needs a veterinary investigation."
Oh.๐
"You might need to stop riding for a while."
Bugger.๐ฃ
"I think you need to take the training right back and rebuild this slowly."
Steady on.๐ซ
And thus begins an acute episode of IRAD.
But before we start pointing fingers, IRAD is incredibly human.
Sometimes inconvenient reality arrives when we're already carrying quite enough reality, thank you very much.
Money is tight. Work is dreadful. Relationships fall apart. We're exhausted. We've already spent thousands on the horse.๐
And the horse was supposed to be the *nice bit* of life.๐ฅน
Then someone (e.g. me ๐) announces that you probably need another veterinary investigation.
At which point the human brain quite reasonably enquires:
โก๏ธ"Do we definitely need reality? Have we considered magnesium?"๐ค
So we become extraordinarily productive.
Change the feed.
Buy the supplement.
Book some bodywork.
Give the horse six weeks off.
Try another exercise.
Wait.
Hope.
Perhaps buy another supplement because the first one may have been insufficiently supplementy.๐
None of these things are inherently silly. Any might be exactly what the horse needs.
The problem begins when *easy action becomes a substitute for necessary action*.๐
Because eventually we encounter the great cognitive collision:
โก๏ธ*Wanting the outcome versus accepting the process required to produce the outcome.*๐ซฃ
And sometimes that process hurts.๐ซ
The vet might find something. The training might need rebuilding. We might lose months of riding. We might discover the horse isn't suitable for what we'd planned.
Or we might simply feel that we don't have the money, time or emotional bandwidth for one more bloody problem.๐
I think that deserves compassion.โค
Most of us aren't avoiding difficult realities because we're terrible people.
Sometimes we're frightened, exhausted or overwhelmed.
Sometimes we just desperately want one thing to be easy.๐ฅบ
*But compassion doesn't make reality disappear.*
We can understand *why* we're avoiding something while still recognising that it needs to be dealt with.
So when you feel an episode of IRAD coming on, ask:
"What does this problem actually require?"
"Am I doing that, or am I doing something easier because it feels like I'm addressing it?"
And most importantly:
"What happens to my horse if I'm wrong?"
Because waiting can be a perfectly sensible strategy.
But waiting can also be avoidance wearing sensible shoes.๐
We will probably all suffer from IRAD occasionally.
The goal isn't to become some perfectly rational horse owner who greets every expensive, inconvenient problem with serene enthusiasm.๐ซ
That person doesn't exist.โค
The goal is to notice when *what we desperately want to be true is getting in the way of finding out what actually is true.*
Have compassion for yourself.
Then do the next necessary thing.
Because your horse has to live with what happens next and avoiding the issue has a good chance of just making things worse and higher chance of risk.
Collectable Advice 272/365.
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