
17/08/2025
Dear Rider,
When I coach you, my words are here to guide you. I might remind you to soften your hands… take a deep breath… follow the horse’s motion… or count out your strides. These verbal cues help you organize your body, focus your attention, and feel supported as you learn.
But there’s more going on beneath the surface.
As you learn to ride, coordinating aids is a complex challenge. It’s totally normal for things to get a little messy - and sometimes confusing for your horse.
That’s where it's critical for me to step in, to support you both.
When I walk alongside you and your horse, I’m not just there for safety or to guide you through the steps. It’s more than that. My energy, posture, placement, stride, and even where I direct my gaze all communicate with your horse.
Over the years, I’ve studied how horses communicate and respond. I’ve learned to subtly use my body to influence your horse through countless hours of groundwork:
I can match or adjust my stride to help set or regulate tempo.
I can position my body to encourage your horse forward when you’re stuck, or block the energy to help slow things down so you can rebalance.
I might adjust my posture, change my energy, or simply offer comfort when your or your horse feels unsure.
I can’t do it all for you, but I can support you both as a team.
This isn’t magic—it’s a conversation, spoken through presence, energy, and movement.
My hope is that, as you grow, you’ll become fluent in this language too. You’ll learn to feel and influence your horse’s attention, balance and rhythm - not just with your hands or legs, but with your whole body, both in and out of the saddle.
I share this as inspiration and insight into the magic these beautiful animals offer. As you continue to put the pieces together and grow in moments of present connection, I will gently fade away, and you’ll become one who carries this magical gift too.
Sincerely,
Heather Henken