07/08/2023
Love this.
“Trust me”
That’s what we say to our horses every time we put a headcollar on and ask them to follow us, put tack on and climb onboard or walk them up a ramp onto a horsebox.
“Trust me” we say as we give them a swift kick in the ribs or over zealous “half halt” for not doing what we ask, when the likelihood is we asked the wrong question or asked the question wrong.
“Trust me” we say as we put a bigger, harsher bit in their mouth because we want the greatest control with the least effort, when a bit of time and training could create a far more harmonious relationship with no need for additional metalwork.
“Trust me” we say as we leave them stood in a stable 23 hours a day, not allowing them any time to be a horse, because turn out is “too risky”, admitting that our bank balance is more important than our horse’s happiness.
“Trust me” we say as we refuse to listen to or acknowledge obvious signs of pain or discomfort, we just reach for the spurs, supplements of bigger bit, rather than taking a step back, remembering horses do not choose to misbehave, and investigating the real reason for the behaviour.
It amazes me that day after day, week after week, year after year, these horses STILL believe us when we say “trust me”. They still try and perform for riders that put success and titles far above their horses welfare and happiness.
And we wonder why horses say no. We wonder why we get explosive behaviour that turns unmanageable or “dangerous”.
So next time you ask your horse to trust you, you have to show them why trusting you is the safer and easier option. Working with horses is a privilege, not a right and your actions should always reflect that.
When you say “trust me” to your horse, make sure you give them a reason to.