08/11/2019
This is worth a read and so very true!
The good ones take time.
Watch quietly from the sidelines as those who try to shortcut with bridles, bits and gadgets become unstuck at the first sign of a challenge.
Get used to sitting with your head in your hands having to take deep breaths or halting in the middle of the arena to stare at the ceiling for fear that frustration will take the reins and undo everything youâve worked on.
Allow him to question, allow him to protest. You have to be in this together, it has to be a partnership not a dictatorship so he has to know that he has a say and that you are listening. Mutual understanding and respect should be the foundations on which you build.
Be prepared to taste your arena surface.
Donât allow others to convince you a âmore experiencedâ jumper would suit you better or âhe might never come rightâ. Trust your gut. You saw something in him, so work you ass off to prove it.
Do not be swayed by trainers encouraging you to just âtryâ the draw reins or the bigger bit. Donât succumb to the pressure to âteach him whose bossâ. When the clock is ticking, and the stride just isnât there you have to trust each other, that isnât going to come from force.
Give this horse your heart, Iâm not saying he wonât break it because he will, but when the day comes that he accepts you into his, he really will go to the ends of the earth for you. But until then, have tissues and a playlist of sad songs at the ready.
And just when you think you canât take one more ride, when you feel like youâve given every part of yourself to this and you canât physically, mentally or emotionally manage anymore. Keep going. Nobody said this was going to be easy...but it might just be worth it, because the most valuable thing you can give a horse is time...
..and the good ones take time.