11/06/2026
Can you spoil a reactive dog?
It's a question that comes up surprisingly often, and my answer is usually: not in the way most people think.
For context, Poppy is currently asleep on the couch. She gets treats, cuddles, and plenty of opportunities to just be a dog. None of those things are the problem.
The problem starts when we confuse kindness with lowering expectations.
If being "nice" means never challenging our dogs, never asking them to work through something difficult, or constantly stepping in before they have a chance to learn, then we're not actually helping them in the long run.
For reactive dogs especially, the goal isn't to create a life where they never experience discomfort. The goal is to help them build the skills, resilience, and confidence to navigate the world more successfully.
Because a bigger life comes from capability.
A dog who can cope with new environments. A dog who can recover after something startles them. A dog who can work through frustration and make good choices when things get hard.
That doesn't come from pressure or force. But it doesn't come from wrapping them in cotton wool either.
The sweet spot sits somewhere in the middle: compassion and accountability, support and challenge, understanding when to help and when to step back and let them figure things out.
One of the biggest misconceptions I see is people assuming that because a dog is anxious, reactive, or sensitive, they should never feel uncomfortable. But growth often happens in those moments where a dog realises, "Actually, I can handle this."
Every time they discover they're capable of more than they thought, resilience grows.
So yes, let your dog on the couch. Buy the fancy treats. Celebrate their birthday if that's your thing.
Just don't underestimate them.
They are often far more capable than we give them credit for, and helping them discover that might be one of the kindest things we can do.