07/02/2022
WHY ARE WE SO SOFT ON OUR DOGS?
Something has happened in the last 10-15 years. There’s been a massive shift in how pet parents raise and teach their dogs. Saying no to the dog is out and saying yes is in. Rules and expectations have gone out the window and pet parents are driven to focus solely on keeping the dog happy at all times by allowing them to do what they want, when they want with no boundaries. They try and solve all problems with increased amounts of love and spoiling...bargaining really. If I give you all these treats and toys, allow you to come and go as you please, get on my furniture and sleep in my bed...you will be happy and appreciative. But that’s not how dogs work. When you go out of your way to treat your dog like a king/queen they will most often learn to treat you as a subordinate. If they are already an insecure/anxious dog, they get worse as they’ve been thrust into the leadership spot and they can’t handle the pressure.
There is a marked increase in aggression, fear aggression, resource guarding, territorial behaviours, protective behaviours, hyper activity and separation anxiety. So what we are doing clearly is not working.
One thing that clients say to me regularly is wow...my dog is so awesome and attentive/happy when they work with you but they aren’t that great when they work with us. Why?
Because I give them stability. They know where they stand with me and that is comforting. When they come for lessons I’m fun, loving and friendly but I’m also strict and have appropriate consequences for their unruly behaviour. I correct them for pulling, jumping, nipping, leash biting, trying to p*e on stuff, getting up on the counter to steal treats. They now know the rules and what’s expected of them when they come to school and then the focus shifts to fun, fun, fun with high levels of success.
If you are afraid that being strict with your dog will make them unhappy it just isn’t true. Packs of animals in the wild thrive with a clear hierarchy and an understanding of where each member of that pack fits in. So be a leader for your dog! Enforce the rules and put my 4 favourite F words into play...always Fun and Friendly and, on occasion, Firm in a non harsh way (think leash tug, sq**rt with water bottle, poke, etc) and always Fair. Never blast your dog for being bad, it’s not their fault. They need your time and effort put into teaching what you want to see.
Being a good leader for your dog will absolutely not kill your relationship with them, it will only enhance it and you will bond more deeply - guaranteed! Leadership does not mean dictatorship.
I challenge you to consistently try it for one week to and report back any changes you noticed!
~ Coach Sara
Unleashed Potential
Duke Ferguson