26/10/2026
CAN YOUR DOG BE CLASSIFIED AS ONE OF THE FOLLOWING?
Does your dog always want something?
Nudging you, following you from room to room, barking at every noise, or dropping a toy in your lap for the tenth time. It might look like your dog simply wants to be involved in everything you do. But if your dog struggles to switch off, it can become exhausting for everyone.
The attention-seeker learns that pestering gets results. Every nudge, bark or toy delivery that earns a response can teach your dog to keep trying.
The anxious dog may follow you everywhere because being apart feels uncomfortable. While wanting to be close is perfectly normal, a dog that struggles to cope without constant contact may need help building confidence and independence.
The overstimulated dog is always switched on. It struggles to settle, reacts to every little thing and seems unable to relax, even when there's nothing happening.
Different dogs, different reasons, but one important skill many need help developing: learning how to settle.
Of course, dogs need exercise, play, mental stimulation and time with their people. But they also need to learn that life doesn't revolve around them.
Sometimes, when you're sitting on the couch, you're just sitting on the couch. You're not an entertainment service.
Sometimes, it's time to relax on your bed while the household gets on with its day.
And sometimes, attention and play can wait.
And that's perfectly okay.
Teaching your dog boundaries isn't about taking away its freedom or making it miserable. It's about helping your dog learn to live comfortably alongside you without constantly needing entertainment, reassurance or direction.
So how do you start teaching calmness?
Teach a reliable bed command. Don't assume your dog will automatically choose to settle, particularly if it has no natural off switch. Teach your dog to go to its bed, stay there and relax until released. Build duration gradually, rewarding the behaviour you want.
- Stop reinforcing pestering. Where appropriate, avoid rewarding demanding behaviour with attention, and teach your dog alternative ways to behave.
Build independence gradually. Practise short periods apart, keeping things manageable for your dog, especially if anxiety is involved.
Balance activity with rest. Exercise and enrichment are important, but so is learning to relax afterwards.
Remember, a dog that struggles to settle isn't necessarily being naughty or deliberately difficult. It may simply never have learnt this skill.
Calmness is a skill. Teach it, practise it and make it part of everyday life.
Because a well-adjusted dog doesn't need to be entertained every minute of the day to have a good life.