06/11/2026
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🤗🐶 "BUT MY DOG LOVES HUGS!" ... ARE YOU SURE? 🐶🤗
We humans are rather fond of hugs. We wrap our arms around the people we love to show affection, reassurance and connection.
So it's understandable that we want to do the same with our dogs.
But here's something worth thinking about: does your dog actually enjoy being hugged, or have they simply learned to tolerate it?
Research into canine body language and human-dog interactions suggests that many dogs find close physical restraint uncomfortable. Being wrapped in arms, squeezed tightly or leaned over can restrict their movement and make it difficult to move away.
For a species that relies heavily on movement, body language and the ability to create distance when uncomfortable, this matters.
And just because a dog doesn't struggle, growl or attempt to escape doesn't necessarily mean they're enjoying the interaction.
🐾 HOW CAN YOU TELL IF YOUR DOG IS UNCOMFORTABLE?
Watch for subtle changes in body language, including:
• Turning their head away or repeatedly looking elsewhere.
• Lip licking when there is no food present.
• Yawning outside their usual tiredness context.
• Showing the whites of their eyes (sometimes called whale eye).
• Flattening or pulling their ears back.
• Becoming unusually still or stiff.
• Lowering their body or tucking their tail.
• Trying to move away or wriggle free.
These are contextual signals, not automatic proof of distress. Look at the whole dog, the situation and whether several signals occur together.
One particularly important response is freezing. A dog that suddenly becomes very still isn't necessarily relaxed. Stillness can be a sign of discomfort or conflict.
💚 HOW CAN WE SHOW OUR DOGS AFFECTION IN WAYS THEY APPRECIATE?
Instead of assuming they want a cuddle, try:
🐾 Gentle stroking on the chest, shoulder or side, if they enjoy being touched.
🐾 A calm, reassuring voice and positive interactions.
🐾 Sniff walks that allow them to explore the world at their own pace.
🐾 Play, training and shared activities that they genuinely enjoy.
🐾 Simply spending quiet time together without expecting physical contact.
🐾 Giving them the freedom to approach and leave whenever they choose.
💡 TRY THE CONSENT TEST!
Here's a simple way to learn what your dog actually enjoys.
1. Gently stroke your dog for a few seconds in an area they normally enjoy being touched.
2. Stop and give them a moment.
3. Watch what happens.
Do they move closer, nudge your hand or actively seek more contact?
Or do they turn away, move off or simply show no interest?
If they actively seek more interaction, you can continue. If they disengage, respect that choice.
This isn't a formal behavioural test, but it is a useful way to become more attentive to your dog's preferences.
💚 THE BIGGER LESSON
Our dogs don't experience affection in exactly the same way we do.
They communicate through body language, proximity, play, scent, social interaction and countless subtle behaviours.
We don't need to stop showing our dogs affection. We simply need to become better at recognising how they prefer to receive it.
True affection isn't about how much physical contact we want to give. It's about understanding what makes the other individual feel safe and comfortable.
And perhaps the greatest expression of love we can offer our dogs is the freedom to say, "Not right now."
🐾 Does your dog actively seek cuddles, prefer a gentle pat, or enjoy simply being beside you? Every dog has their own preferences!
Donna Williams,
Emerald Park Border Collies.
www.emeraldparkbc.com