16/06/2026
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We can try so hard for that “instant” connection that it can feel personal when it doesn’t happen.
They may avoid you.
Keep their distance and show zero interest in affection we can give.
We give them everything but sometimes fail to understand what they have LOST.
They can be grieving.
And we may not understand that, especially when they came from a very damaged background.
But ideal or just awful, it WAS familiar.
Losing that can absolutely affect them
The smell of the home they knew.
The loss of the walk on their favourite street.
Who they saw every morning when they woke up.
The routine they knew.
It’s all gone.
We see they’re struggling and desperately want to help them.
We buy them the comfy bed. But it’s not “theirs”, yet.
It smells different from the old musty blanket they had covered in their own hair.
We buy new toys and want them to play.
But it’s not their favourite game or their favourite toy. That didn’t come with them.
A dog can be in a vastly better environment and situation for them and STILL experience loss.
That adjustment they need?
Sometimes it feels personal.
Like you’ve done something wrong or you're not doing enough.
It feels like a distance and no amount of “trying” from us seems to work.
Their loss is real and it needs to be recognised.
Your new dog cannot feel a connection when theres no safety.
“But, it’s safe here, I would never hurt them”.
They don’t know that yet.
Safety can take days, weeks or months and it happens when it happens.
That 3x3x3 rule?
There is no real timeline we can predictably rely on other than it will take as long as it takes.
But when we are predictable and consistent, and when that feeling of safety envelops them THAT is when you will see those connections.
You’ll see glimpses .
They may be tiny at first or you may see real connection and then distance again.
A little more curiosity.
A bit more confidence.
They’ll start to show more trust.
Your connection now isn't what it will be in the future.
Because safety comes before connection.
All they need right now is to feel safe.
Save this for the hard days 💙
What was the smallest sign your rescue started to trust you?