27/10/2026
🙌 Great article!
Dissipate, don’t participate.
It’s a saying you’ll hear us use often when we’re coaching riders, and it’s one of the most important lessons we can teach in horsemanship.
When things aren’t going the way you want with your horse, you have two choices. You can participate in the emotion, or you can help dissipate it.
When a horse gets frustrated, anxious, reactive, or resistant, it’s incredibly easy for the rider to match that energy. We get frustrated because they’re frustrated. We add pressure because things aren’t working. We become emotional because they’re emotional.
And before long, instead of one emotional participant, we have two.
But you cannot expect your horse to find relaxation and clarity in a situation that you’re helping escalate.
Our job as horsemen is to be the steady presence in the conversation. To recognize when things are beginning to unravel and have the awareness to redirect that energy into something productive.
Sometimes that means changing the question. Sometimes it means simplifying the task. Sometimes it means giving the horse a moment to process and find the right answer.
It doesn’t mean avoiding difficult conversations or never holding your horse accountable. It means understanding that adding emotion to an already emotional situation rarely produces the result we’re looking for.
The more challenging the moment, the more important our timing, patience, and emotional control become.
Because ultimately, we can’t always control how our horses respond to a situation, but we can control what we contribute to it.
The next time things start going sideways with your horse, ask yourself:
Am I helping dissipate this situation, or am I participating in it?
That one question can change the entire direction of your ride.
Dissipate, don’t participate.