02/05/2025
The Subtle Art of Shutting a Horse Down đ
(Because looking calm and being okay are not the same thing)
Thereâs an idea floating around the horse world that needs a little caution tape. đ§
Itâs the belief that when a horse lies down during a clinicâsnoring gently into the sandâitâs a sure sign of success. That theyâre relaxed, trusting, and deeply at peace.
But hereâs the thing: not all stillness is created equal.
Itâs easy to spot an anxious horse. Theyâre reactive, unsettled, practically bouncing off the environment. But what about the ones that go very still? The ones who seem calmâtoo calmâand begin to check out completely⊠even to the point of lying down?
Iâm not talking about a horse standing quietly. I mean that eerie kind of stillness that makes you wonder if anyoneâs home. The lights are on, but the horse is mentally halfway to Narnia. đŠ
Because overwhelm doesnât always look like movement. Sometimes, it looks like sleep. When a horse canât run or fight, the brain takes the third option: freeze. Nervous system in low-power mode.
And yet, people often celebrate it.
âLook!â they say. âHeâs lying downâhe must feel safe!â
Which is a little like saying, âMy child just fell asleep under the table during a shouting match. She must feel really loved and secure.â
Letâs flip it.
Imagine your child is anxious about school. She walks in, curls up on the floor, and nods off.
Do you think:
A) Wow, what a chilled-out kid.
B) Thatâs⊠not quite right. đŹ
Because when horsesâor humansâget overwhelmed, they sometimes switch off. Not because theyâre calm, but because they resign into helplessness. Itâs not healing. Itâs coping.
So before you frame your horseâs nap or stillness as a breakthrough, there is a test:
đ What happens when you ask them to do something?
Do they respond with interest and softness?
Or do they blink, brace, or go right back into tension?
Does movement bring willingnessâor resistance?
Because if your horse is still struggling to engage, they might not be letting go of stress⊠they might just be disconnected from it.
Shutdown looks peaceful from the outsideâbut it isnât the same as peace on the inside.
Letâs not confuse dissociation with progress.
Letâs not reward collapse just because itâs quieter than conflict.
Letâs aim for a horse thatâs present, curious, and confidentânot one thatâs curled up in the sand because thatâs the only option left. đŽ
We owe it to them to know the difference.
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