01/08/2025
Because sometimes when you don’t say goodbye,
goodbye says goodbye for you.
Those are the worst times.
He never came home.
Home was a small field where six sober men lived.
They had no dogs, until the last man showed up.
He had a little guy in tow. A small Chihuahua. Think Chihuahua. Then think smaller.
The man showed up and asked if he could stay. They told him the rules. He accepted them as a Blessing. The dog was a Blessing too.
The man and dog had found each other a few weeks earlier. No tags. No microchip. No pictures on any websites.
The dog was unneutered.
The man learned of a vet about a mile away. They offered a low-cost neuter and he set out to raise the money. Neuter, vaccinations, microchip. The full enchilada, that’s what this dog was to receive.
Then the man left one morning and did not return. He left so early that no one had a chance to say goodbye. Goodbye said goodbye for them.
But the dog was still there, sound asleep just like always.
I knew these men because they used to have a dog. The Pongo Fund helped take care of that dog. The man with the dog moved away, but The Pongo Fund continued to check in on the other men.
Every few weeks we would bring lunch, and together we would sit near the freeway eating sandwiches. It might not make sense, but it was pretty nice.
The men decided they would continue caring for this little dog. They would also get him neutered. But they did not have any money saved for the neuter, so they were starting from scratch.
They did not know how long it would take, but they would do what they could do.
The thing was, they did not want any help. Each one of those men had been let down, or they had let someone down. They no longer relied on others.
The Pongo Fund could not pay for the neuter. That was their rule.
They were about $100 short.
These were nice guys. Really nice. They deserved the best life had to offer. Their self imposed exile was something they had come to terms with. We just shared sandwiches every now and then. There was no need to judge or second guess. Or worst of all, to try and rationalize.
But they had foxtails. Lots of them.
We explained the dangers of foxtails. None of them knew about them, most people don’t. Until you learn the hard way. And we didn’t want foxtails to happen to their little Chihuahua buddy.
Clearing the foxtails would take a lot of time. Many hours, especially by hand.
I offered them $100 to clear the foxtails. Not to just make it safer for their little Chihuahua, but for any other dog or cat or animal that might end up in that field. I was asking them to do it as a community service. The money was for them to buy gloves, water, whatever they needed.
I also happened to have some gloves I’d picked up at a local store. Extra gloves. Maybe they could use them to pull the foxtails.
And then maybe they could use the $100 to finish paying for the neuter.
I was being sneaky. Or I thought I was being sneaky.
So much for that plan.
They figured out pretty fast what I was trying to do. To get them to use the $100 to get the dog neutered. They said no thank you.
They cleared the foxtails anyway. It took many hours. I was amazed.
A week or so later I finally told them that I needed to help, I didn’t want them to miss the chance to get the dog vaccinated and neutered. I told them I wanted to pay for the neuter.
They said no.
They said no because they didn’t want to let me down.
They worried that they might miss the appointment. They didn’t want a ride or a wake up call or anything of the sort. As they said, it’s just that things happen when you live in a field. And they didn’t want the responsibility of something getting in the way and them not showing up. They didn’t want to do that to the veterinarian, or to The Pongo Fund.
As I said before, these were really nice guys. They made their point.
They would get there when they had the rest of the money. The next $100.
And they would do it on their terms.
The thing is, they made total sense. We all want to be independent. They did too.
We found a middle ground.
If I gave them $100, that $100 would give them enough money to get the dog neutered. But I had to give it to them. Not to the vet. I needed to trust them. That’s what they said.
What they didn’t know, is that I’d been trusting them for a long time already.
They didn’t have a day picked for the neuter, but they would get it scheduled. They had a wagon so they could wheel their little buddy to and fro. The only thing was, I had to agree not to keep checking on them as to when it would get done.
Agreed.
I gave them the $100.
A few weeks later I stopped by.
The little dog was neutered and vaccinated and microchipped. He had a really cool collar with name tags, and one of them had The Pongo Fund phone number on it as a backup. He also wore a St. Francis medallion for eternal protection.
The men are all gone now, their campsite became too busy from others who were not sober. The six men left. The six men, and the little dog. We didn’t talk about where they were going, only where they’d been.
I’m thankful we had a chance to say goodbye.
I know we’ll run into them again. Not sure where or when. I just know…
If you read all of these words, I thank you. That was really kind of you to do.
Being a Helper.
And this is why we Pongo.
Sit. Stay. Eat. Live.
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