10/28/2025
Baby horses are not for the faint of heart.
Totally worth it but Lordy it’s a long road.
I was talking to someone new to +R/ethical behavior shaping type training just yesterday about all the highs and lows of it.
I think the hardest one for me is how long things take sometimes. Not because I’m in a hurry, but because sometimes I feel like literally nothing is happening or we are going backwards for weeks at a time and it makes me feel like I’m epically failing, ruining my horse, etc…
But inevitably there finally comes a day when it just clicks! That day, that moment, is worth every single tear and worry and moment spent painstakingly tenfold.
One thing that has been a huge undertaking for me and William, and a VERY important one for me when I often have limited mobility due to my health issues, is moving his body parts around gently and sometimes in small or large increments.
Growing up I was always taught to teach this to horses with lots of smacking and pushing and poking and jerking… things I didn’t want to do. Things that I found made horses mos themselves quickly out of fear and without a solid stop cue involved. Two things that would be dangerous for me.
In looking up training information for what I needed I honestly found that most similar maneuvers where taught in a manner that really didn’t provide the benefits I needed or use cues that would benefit me as I needed. Soooo I kinda went rogue and just winged it.
It took almost two weeks of doing it daily before I got the first side step into me with the cue I wanted. Annnnnnd he almost knocked me over with his butt…. He’s very eager… that almost 18 months ago that I started this project. Early this year I pretty solidly had him moving towards me and away from me from my hand cues I wanted buuuuut it was still…. Abrupt… 🤦🏻♀️
A brief explainstion of the cue is - touching his side and saying *over* asks him to Mo awsy until I stop touching him, while holding my hand out away from him and saying *hip* (was not supposed to be the cue word but ooops its stuck now…) and he steps towards me until he touches my hand. The moving part has gone well, the stopping part has been… an adventure. 😅🥴
TODAY!!! TODAY!!! For the first time!!!! He was PERFECT!!!! In fact he stopped when the tips of his hair barely touched my hand, and when the pressure of my hand barely let up. He even followed me sideways as I backed up several feet before cuing him to stop. Most importantly, he did it all very gently. It was golden. Wonderful. So worth the literal 18 months it has taken to slowly shape and adjust this behavior gently.
Today he also respected the *wait* command perfectly! Something else that has been being installed for months at this point.
Sometimes it’s like I’m doing the same thing over and over again for months with zero results, and then one day he just does it like a fairy came and trained him overnight. It’s weird. And wonderful. And now on to the next thing that will make me question my abilities and sanity all at once for months…