12/02/2021
I want to share with you something I have discovered about communicating with my pets:
DJ, my 11-year-old Sheltie is very smart (really, he is) and sometimes he shows signs of being very human.
For example: For years, I have told him, "Go Pee-pee," when I take him outside to relieve himself. He had always done so, immediately. Then, about a year ago, he started to refuse to go when I gave the command. I scolded and cajoled to no avail. He preferred to hold it until his walk. One day, out of exasperation, I said, in a polite voice, "Go pee-pee for me, please." To my surprise, he immediately relieved himself. Ever since, he will only pay attention if I ASK him to go, rather than tell him to go. I'm like that myself. I hate to be told to do something, or that I have to do something.
I also hate to be told that I can't do something, which leads me to my second discovery about DJ.
Being a sheltie, DJ is prone to barking, especially when he is excited. No amount of scolding, time-outs, sq**rt bottles or "no-no cans" would stop him. I was really getting upset with him (and myself). I'm a dog trainer, why couldn't I get him to stop barking?
Then, one day, I tried something else: He was barking at a delivery person and I said, in a quiet, conversational tone, "DJ, I don't want you to bark. Please don't" And He Stopped Barking! It was a miracle! Now, when he sees someone or something he wants me to know about, he grumbles in his throat, or barks under his breath and looks at me, wanting me to come see what he sees. Then, he comes for a treat for being a good "Watch Dog."
Now, I'm working with Buttons, my 10-year-old harlequin cat. I talk to her as I would a small child and she is responding and learning words.
It feels wonderful to know the animals understand me and are beginning to communicate back to me. We are actually having conversations.