12/02/2024
There is so much I can say, but, to sum it up, YES! The seemingly passive quiet time holds so much value. In fact, it is ESSENTIAL in horse•man•ship.
HANGING OUT WITH 3 STALLIONS
Probably the biggest change I’ve ever seen in horses from a small action is being present enough to engage with their muzzle every time I am around them.
This photo, taken last March is of my wife Robyn and 3 of our horses who were all stallions at the time.
Rey, on the left, is 8 years old and when we first got him he was very obedient, and VERY internal. Once he came out of that shut down state he was very interactive with his muzzle (I have quite a few videos on YouTube of him like this), and when I say very, I mean very !
The middle horse, Bodhi, was 2 at the time and from the time he started interacting with humans, was very mouthy, and I spent a lot of time interacting with his muzzle whenever he offered it.
Rupert, on the right, was probably middle of the road when it comes to mouth ones, and was 3 when this photo was taken.
This was one of the first nice spring evenings we had this year, and we went up to hang out with the horses. Robyn sat I this stump and these 3 stallions came up and hung out with her.
There was no fighting each other.
There was no biting Robyn.
Robyn wasn’t having to fend them off.
There was just peace.
Something most people would love to have with their horses, but you have to pay for it with presence. Not in the moment of the photo, but the months and months of meeting the need to engage until it’s no longer there.
I’ve often said we need less correction and more connection. I can only imagine how horses would be if this was the norm instead of the dominance paradigm that is so often spread, which actually creates the problems that many people want to fix (I used to be one, so speaking from experience here).