02/08/2022
I often meet people who ask their dogs to do something because they are "supposed to". As if a well-trained dog should fit into a mold that society thinks they should - without ever asking ourselves why we want our dogs to do a certain thing.
Waiting to go through a doorway may be the one I see the most often and is rarely executed as the owner intended. A new client will come to our building and they hold their dog back from entering, often repeating the phrase "wait, wait, wait". As I watch there is no indication the dog actually knows what is being asked of them OR they are too excited to register the command. Eventually, either by making the right "guess" or by giving up, they stop trying to enter and the owner lets them inside. Sometimes it's clear they may enter by a release word, other times the release is just as unclear as the wait itself.
It's always stressful on both sides of the leash, the coming and going, and leaves me once again wondering how this became such a struggle between so many dogs and humans. When asked people tell me that they won't allow their dog to rush a door, it's bad manners, or they need to respect them. Sometimes I don't, as it appears the human feels the need to show that their dog can behave. I see a lot in these interactions, but I rarely address the doorway battle in a first lesson.
I see the doorway as a safety precaution, it's not about "manners". A dog that dashes to the other side impulsively is not thinking. They are not prepared for what awaits them, and most are too excited to listen in the event there is something we need to protect them from - such as a busy street or stranger. I don't require a sit, down, or watch, for permission to go outside. But I do require calmness, stillness, and the ability to listen for a release.
A doorway is simply another choice game. Instead of fighting to control the dog, I focus on controlling the resource. In this case, the resource is access to whatever is waiting on the other side. If my dog is dashing forward or overexcited I simply deny access by closing the gate or door. When the correct choice is made I reopen the door, if they start forward it closes. No words are said, it isn't a battle. It is clear communication to my dog. Calmness opens the door, barking and excitement do not. After they are calm I release them.
By limiting my words it is easier for the dog to learn what I want. By teaching them, rather than showing them, they learn to make better choices when I am not there. You never know when someone may leave the door open unintentionally and you aren't there to tell your dog to "wait". Making the right choices leads to excellent manners (because you get to teach them which ones are right for you!) and may just save your dog's life.