12/30/2025
This is Arno. Arno looks a little bit miffed, but honestly, she's come worlds past where she was when I first met her three years ago. Her humans have been my most loyal clients since I started petsitting professionally in California.
The first drop-in I did with Arno, I had to half crawl under the couch just to see her and get a picture of her for her humans, and she basically came out *swinging*.
Arno loves her people, but is very fear-aggressive in situations where she feels unsafe - this makes handling her a very tricky business, and I'd argue, finding a balance between getting at least a visual on her to ensure continued good health, and not causing her emotional distress, is even harder.
I literally spent a good 20 minutes each visit (twice a day) laying on the floor in front of the couch with Arno smashed as far back as she could go, slow-blinking at her, laying and pretending to ignore her, and generally just being as relaxed as possible, to convince Arno I was not a threat.
Now, three years fast forward, I still have never touched Arno. But she comes out when she feels like it, she doesn't hide (though she has her favorite spots, she's not buried under the couch anymore) and occasionally, she'll pass within a foot of me pretty peacefully. Every once in a while I get a hiss or a mumble in case I might forget myself and try to touch her, lol (spoiler, I have never been so brazen, but she is just making sure).
Pets are not toys and have their own thoughts and feelings. This is the other end of the spectrum from sweet Lily, posted the other day. Each is completely ok, and I let the pets I care for, take the lead on what our relationship will look like.
Even though basic care tasks mostly remain the same, no two sits are the same, and it matters that the person giving that care, can critically think enough to make judgement calls and help your pet succeed in the best way, while you're away.
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