Canine Consent

Canine Consent Fear-/force-free dog behavior consultant & certified professional trainer using a positive reinforcement (rewards-based) approach informed by behavior science.

Recognized as a Sniff Spot Best of Missouri Dog Trainer in 2023 & 2024. KPA CTP, CPDT-KA, FFCP. I’m Karen DiCostanzo, CPDT-KA, KPA CTP, canine behavior consultant and certified professional dog trainer. Learning the art and science of training animals has forever changed my life in an extremely positive way. I’d like to share with you how to enrich your relationship with your canine companion whil

e achieving your dog training goals! All great relationships are based upon strong, two-way communication. For this reason, one of the first things I’ll teach you is how to understand your dog’s communication signals and, in turn, express yourself in ways your dog can easily understand. Services include behavior consultations, private lessons, service/emotional support dog training, and Canine Good Citizen (CGC) training. All breeds, sizes, and ages are welcome! In-home appointments available weekdays, evenings, and weekends to accommodate your busy schedule; discounted training packages also available. Effective training is an ongoing process of growth and understanding between you and your canine companion. Whether in the privacy of your home or in my semi-private classes, I’ll help you create custom solutions for your dog, supporting you as much as you need until you’ve achieved your dog training goals. Ready to improve the life you share with your dog? Get started today by contacting me!

“Not every struggling dog is loud.”
05/25/2026

“Not every struggling dog is loud.”

These dogs can “give in” instead of growl.
And because of that, there’s no obvious conflict, but there can be discomfort.
“They’re OK together.”
“Let them work it out.”
“They’ll get used to each other.”

Tolerating something happening is not always the same as feeling safe with it.

Some dogs become very good at avoiding conflict instead of resolving it or escalating.
Some will just simply endure social pressure.

Being aloof can work for them too.

A quieter dog, that doesn’t move too much or isn’t vocal around others has sometimes worked out how to “fly under the radar”
Now there really isn’t anything wrong with that, but we need to be mindful.
Some freeze as a dog approaches.
Some repeatedly roll over and just stay there until the other dog loses interest.

But sometimes they can escalate only after ‘tolerating’ things for too long.

Unfortunately, these quieter dogs are often the ones people can miss completely.
They can also be put into social situations they don’t want to be in at all.

That quietness is mistaken for calmness, acceptance.

Not every struggling dog is loud.

Fear can take many forms, not all of it easily recognizable. Understanding the emotional state of the dog, which informs...
05/03/2026

Fear can take many forms, not all of it easily recognizable. Understanding the emotional state of the dog, which informs their behavioral choices, helps us better understand how to help them cope with their Big Feelings.

Learn to hear your dog when they whisper, before they resort to shouting.
04/15/2026

Learn to hear your dog when they whisper, before they resort to shouting.

Trust that ‘huh’ moment.🤔
You know the one.

You’re out with your dog and something just makes you pause for a second.
Not a big reaction. Nothing obvious at all really.
Just enough to make you think, “why did they just do that?”

Maybe it was a quick lip lick.
A few blinks in a row.
A weird little grin.

To someone else, your dog looks completely fine.

But to you?
Something felt different. It was a little bit “odd” and maybe you are starting to connect the dots some more.
Maybe you noticed that scratch always happens when a certain visitor arrives, perhaps a nibble on the paws too?

Those teeny tiny moments are often your dog trying to say,
“I’m not so sure about this.”

They ARE communicating with us.
It’s small, it’s often a bit “odd” too, but they are speaking clearly.

The least we can do is listen.

Agree 💯!!!
04/11/2026

Agree 💯!!!

If a stranger walked up and asked to touch your child, what would you do? Would you smile and say sure, my daughter is friendly! Go ahead and pet her hair!

Uh, no. I would momma bear the crap out of that situation. No way, a stranger is touching my kid.

Why is it different for dogs?

From a veterinary behavior standpoint, an unfamiliar person reaching toward a dog is not a neutral interaction. It is a social and physical intrusion that the dog must interpret in real time.

Some might like it.

Many dogs will tolerate it.

Many will try to avoid it.

Others—especially those with fear, anxiety, pain, or a history of threat—may escalate.

Aggression is not unpredictable. It is a distance-increasing behavior that occurs when a dog perceives a loss of safety and control.

When we assume access—without consent—we remove choice.

When we remove choice, we increase stress.

And when stress rises, risk follows.

This is why “friendly” is not a sufficient assessment.

This is why bites often occur during routine interactions.

This is why prevention starts before contact is made.

The standard should be simple:

Dogs just like kids are not public property. No one has the right to pet your dog no matter how much they profess that dogs love them.

Not because dogs are dangerous—

but because they are sentient beings with thresholds, histories, and limits.

Respecting that boundary protects the dog, the handler, and the public.

And that is good behavioral medicine.

04/08/2026

It doesn’t mean playing.
It never did.
“Socialisation” has a lot to answer for.

It has a far more important meaning, and it’s often missed because of that one word.

It’s not all about interactions with other puppies or dogs. That’s a very small part of it.
Yet we get stuck thinking socialisation = play.

That’s the issue.

Socialisation is the whole world around them.
The one we’re used to. They’re not.

And if we reduce it to just play with other dogs?
Problems are on the way.

Socialisation is about teaching safety.
Creating safety.
Letting your puppy feel safe.

Even if they’ve never seen a plane or heard a crowd, the goal is the same.
Slow, careful exposure so they can take it in without overwhelming them.

We forget, or maybe don’t fully appreciate, how much they need to get used to in our world.

Socialisation is careful, positive exposure.
Acclimation.
And yes, a level of "neutrality".

Wet grass.
Stairs.
Rain on their head.
A cat passing by.
A scooter moving past.

The goal was never just play.

A thousand times, yes!!
03/10/2026

A thousand times, yes!!

03/08/2026

Let your dog be a little more dog!

Love this! 🫶
02/02/2026

Love this! 🫶

Enrichment is NOT something you give your dog once a day.

Enrichment means meeting all of an animal’s physical, behavioral, and emotional needs to empower them to perform species-typical behaviors in healthy, safe, and appropriate ways.

It is not extra things you have to do for your pet. It is the everyday stuff that really matters: feeding, cuddling sniff sessions, or even just giving meds!

“Behavior is really an *expression* of the problem. It’s not THE problem.” ~Dr. Daniel Amen
12/10/2025

“Behavior is really an *expression* of the problem. It’s not THE problem.” ~Dr. Daniel Amen

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Ditto for playing with spraying water (e.g. garden hoses, sprinklers, etc.), bubbles, and other “nonexistent prey.”
11/30/2025

Ditto for playing with spraying water (e.g. garden hoses, sprinklers, etc.), bubbles, and other “nonexistent prey.”

Laser pointer syndrome is an obsessive compulsive like behavior caused by engaging your dog's prey drive without ever letting it be satisfied.

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