
08/02/2025
Quick fixes, they are really tempting to use, especially since in the horse industry they are designed to be very emotionally satisfying to the emotional and frustrated person.
I'm talking about those situations where the human has expectations for the horse to perform a task and the horse is not fully prepared to handle that task; it can be anywhere from show performance to trailer loading.
What happens: the horse does not perform within expectation, the human emotionally dysregulates by getting frustrated, they get out the whip/flag/etc and attacks the horse while yanking them around, the horse dysregulates and becomes fearful and is pushed into fight or flight. This also happens gradually through trigger stacking until something dangerous happens.
Notice the first things that happen are unmet expectations and emotional dysregulation on the human's part. Two things our intelligent brains can identify and shut down. Part of horse training is regulating one's self.
Are you letting yourself be influenced by an emotional dysregulated or immature trainer by suggesting quick fixes as training methods? Or are you finding help from an emotionally mature trainer who has the ability to identify when you and the horse are starting to go over the edge?
An even better trainer would be one who can challenge your emotional maturity without pushing you or your horse over the edge; initiating personal growth.