01/09/2026
Everything should begin and end with respect. It’s a simple concept. But as humans someone must teach us respect, because by nature we are disrespectful and only care about ourselves. This usually comes in the way of parents or in the case of those without parents, those who step forward to fill this gap. Without them we will quickly find out the natural consequences of being disrespectful and likely not from someone that cares about us. Those who love us and teach us about respect do it out of love, not by compulsion, and they start when we are young and the stakes are low and they are the ones handing out consequences. Sadly, for people that have nobody in their life to teach them respect or more importantly hold them accountable for being disrespectful, both they and society pay the price for their actions.
In Philippians 2-12 we are told to “work out our salvation with fear and trembling”. Here fear is not horror, but rather reverence and obedience, and respect. At 53 years old, both of my parents and my Dad’s mother raised me old school, meaning I knew exactly what was allowed in any given circumstance and what infractions would get a look, a verbal rebuke, or a physical correction. It taught me to error on the side of caution with my words and actions. It taught me to hesitate and consider where I was and who I was talking to before doing something. Because these people believed that love was not just a feeling but required action, for the most part I have been able to avoid many unpleasant consequences in life. In each case where I received negative consequences, it was because if failed to behave based on the fact that I knew better. Now that they have passed on, what keeps me out of trouble is not fear of physical punishment but rather the fear of disrespecting their memory by doing what I know I shouldn’t do. My Grandmother taught me to fear the Lord in the same way. I am blessed because so many people either come to this fear of the Lord later in life or not at all and they cane be identified by their actions. The more I have learned to fear the Lord the easier it is for me to stay out of trouble. When I was a child, my parents were not believers, but like my Grandmother they both had massive respect for their parents, other elders, our flag and Veterans. These things have been handed down to my children, and I pray they are handed down to my grandchildren.
When I see a young man being disrespectful the first thing that I think is that he never had a man knock him flat on his ass. My father never had to because I knew he would. My Mother and Grandmother were the same way, but because of relationship, all three could have the same effect on me with nothing more than a look.
There was never a time in my life when I thought that my opinion was more important than someone else’s. To this day when someone expresses an opinion no matter how strongly I disagree, I do my best not to become emotional which allows me to avoid the consequences of saying something I regret.
It is my opinion that the majority of problems in our society can be traced to a lack of respect. A child that is allowed to believe that their opinion is has the same weight an adult’s and therefor they have the “right” to do and say as they wish are likely to end up facing consequences both natural and legal from a society that does not love them. Proverbs 13-24 states “Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them”.
When I am in a class and the instructor begins to speak and people keep talking or the National Anthem is played and people keep talking, or a I hear a child back talk their parents the first thing that comes to my mind is that the only reason I am not among them is because someone loved me enough to teach me to be respectful in all circumstances.
Respect keeps people out of jail, keeps them from being shot by the police, and generally out of trouble.
Too many people believe that what they “feel” gives them the right to disrespect others and when someone shows them otherwise, they are the bad guy.
For this reason, I loathe disrespectful people and notice that those that I am at odds with fall into this category. Those that are in my circle are respectful. It is not my place to teach adults to be respectful, but I have the ability to not include them in my life.