09/07/2025
The Dirty Four Letter Word...Can't
The hardest horse I ever started was a gray mare named Sugar. She was a tough one that tested every part of my being. I started her as a five year old straight off the plains of South Dakota. I wasn't supposed to end up with her as someone had spoken for her before I asked to buy her. But they backed out and I ended up with her.
She was a tough mare, every time I asked her for a lope, she bucked, sometimes she gave me a new grass stain. Sometimes I made the walk of shame, that is the walk back to the barn, without the horse you leave on.
I wanted to quit on that mare. Many times I thought, I can't do it. She's tough, she will buck me off. She's capable of it, I knew this from first hand experience.
There were two people in my life that kept telling me to stick with her. I wanted to make her a bucking horse in the rodeo, she had an affinity for it. But they kept encouraging me to not quit. Every day she would buck, hard, when I'd ask her to lope.
One day while I fully anticipated her to buck as I asked her to lope, however, this time, she just loped out. I was so surprised that I pinched myself. I was shocked, I must be dreaming.
Maybe I can do this.
I again asked her for a lope, and she stepped right out. Maybe I can do it.
This simple belief of can, or can't, makes all the difference. I have learned that if I am convinced I can't, I'm probably right. If I'm convinced I can, I'm probably right as well.
Although I initially thought I didn't have what it took to get through to Sugar, I stayed with it though because I didn't want to let those people down that meant so much to me.
I was too stubborn to quit and say, I can't.
Sugar ended up winning me my first saddle, buckle, and appeared in the pages of a national saddle catalog. I still wear that buckle nearly every day. I just needed to keep at it realizing that I was just what she needed at the time. She was capable of flying lead changes every other stride. So was I, although I didn't know it at the time.
How about you? Are you stiffled by the belief that you can't. "Whether you think you can, or you can't. You are probably right."
Henry Ford
Edit: I want to address a few comments as a whole as I think some have taken this post too literally. I am not saying everyone should ride every horse. Part of everyone's journey is making those tough decisions. What I am referring to is when we want to quit but are actually capable.