Hidden Creek Equestrian Center, LLC

Hidden Creek Equestrian Center, LLC Thank you for visiting our page. Owned and managed by Sue and Bill Borders and Kerry-Louise Boucher.

We are a professional, family orientated business providing training and instruction for English and Western disciplines, groundwork, and many horse related skills and activities.

Sharing this for me to read again later, when I have more time.  I have tweaked/changed/updated/adjusted our policies ma...
06/23/2025

Sharing this for me to read again later, when I have more time.

I have tweaked/changed/updated/adjusted our policies many times in the last 24 years, and I believe there is no absolutely perfect system which works for all, but there is always something new to learn which might help.

For my riding instructor/trainer friends, anyone in the equine service industry (and much of this applies to other service industries, too), take the time to read this. Your expertise, your knowledge, your experience, your education and your TIME have a value. Just because you chose a profession that demands lots of physical labour and hard work, doesn't mean you are worth LESS or have a lower level of intelligence. I know I'm smarter than the average bear 🐻 πŸ˜‰

Boundaries Are Not Barriers: Why Setting Limits Makes You a Better Instructor (Not a Meaner One)

"Can we move tomorrow's 3 PM lesson to 3:15? Actually, make that 3:30. Oh wait, can we do 2:45 instead?"

*Text received at 10:47 PM*

"I know you said no discounts, but times are really tough right now. Can you make an exception? Just this once?"

"I know it's your lunch break, but can you quickly help me catch my horse?"

Sound familiar? If you're nodding your head while feeling that familiar knot in your stomach, you're not alone. Most riding instructors struggle with boundaries - and most of us think setting them makes us "mean" or "unprofessional."

**Here's the truth: Boundaries aren't barriers. They're the foundation of sustainable, excellent instruction.**

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**The Boundary Guilt Trap - Why We Feel Bad About Setting Limits**

πŸ˜‡ **The Helper Complex**
We became instructors because we love helping people. Saying "no" feels like we're letting someone down.

πŸ’° **Financial Fear**
"If I don't accommodate this request, they'll find another instructor."

🎭 **People-Pleasing Programming**
Many of us were raised to be accommodating, especially women in service industries.

⏰ **Urgency Addiction**
Everything feels urgent when you're in the middle of it.

**But here's what we don't realize: Poor boundaries don't just hurt us - they hurt our students too.**

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**You Don't Have To: The Liberation List**

**Communication Boundaries**

πŸ“± **Answer texts at 9 PM about tomorrow's lesson**
Why this hurts everyone:
- You're "on call" 24/7, leading to burnout
- Students don't learn to plan ahead
- Emergency communication loses its meaning
- Your family time gets interrupted constantly

Better approach: "I respond to non-emergency messages between 8 AM and 6 PM on business days."

πŸ“ž **Respond to last-minute schedule changes**
Why this creates chaos:
- Your schedule becomes unpredictable
- Other students get bumped for the squeaky wheel
- You lose income from gaps you can't fill
- Students don't respect your time

Better approach: "Schedule changes require 24-hour notice except for emergencies."

**Scheduling Boundaries**

πŸ—“οΈ **Accommodate every schedule request**
The hidden cost:
- Your schedule becomes impossible to manage
- You work strange hours that exhaust you
- Students learn they can manipulate your time
- You have no personal life rhythm

Better approach: "I have lesson slots available at these times. Let me know which works for your schedule."

⏰ **Work through your lunch break**
What you're really sacrificing:
- Physical energy for afternoon students
- Mental clarity from proper nutrition
- Modeling healthy habits for students
- Basic human needs for productivity

Better approach: "I take a 30-minute break at noon to recharge for afternoon lessons."

**Financial Boundaries**
πŸ’³ **Discount your rates because "times are tough"**

The real impact:
- Devalues your expertise for all students
- Creates unsustainable pricing expectations
- Attracts clients who don't value your service
- Forces you to work more hours for less money

Better approach: "I understand budgets are tight. Let me share some options that might work better for your situation."

🎯 **Work for free "just this once"**
The slippery slope:
- Sets precedent for future free work
- Teaches students your time has no value
- Creates resentment that affects instruction quality
- Undermines your professional credibility

Better approach: "I'm happy to help you find solutions within our normal lesson structure."

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**The Science of Boundaries and Better Teaching**

**Energy Management = Instruction Quality**
πŸ”‹ **Cognitive Load Theory**
When you're stressed about boundaries being crossed, your mental energy is divided. Students get a distracted, less effective instructor.

🧠 **Decision Fatigue**
Every accommodation request requires mental energy. By the time you're teaching, you've already made dozens of micro-decisions and your brain is tired.

πŸ’ͺ **Physical Stamina**
Instructors who protect their rest and meal times have more physical energy for demonstration, spotting, and emergency response.

😌 **Emotional Regulation**
Well-rested instructors with clear boundaries are more patient, more positive, and better able to handle student challenges.

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**What Strong Boundaries Actually Look Like**

**Communication Boundaries in Action**
βœ… **Business Hours Policy**
"I respond to messages Monday-Friday, 8 AM-6 PM. Emergency contact information is available for true emergencies."

βœ… **Response Time Expectations**
"I respond to non-urgent messages within 24 hours during business days."

βœ… **Lesson Change Policy**
"Schedule changes require 24-hour notice. Same-day changes incur a $25 fee to cover the lost lesson slot."

**Professional Service Boundaries**
βœ… **Scope of Service**
"Lessons include instruction, basic horse care education, and safety oversight. Horse training, therapeutic services, and extended horse care are separate services."

βœ… **Emergency Definition**
"Emergencies include injuries requiring immediate medical attention or dangerous horse behavior. Schedule preferences are not emergencies."

βœ… **Payment Policies**
"Lessons are paid in advance. Late payments incur a $15 fee after the 5-day grace period."

**Personal Time Boundaries**
βœ… **Meal Breaks**
"I take a 30-minute lunch break to ensure I'm energized for afternoon students."

βœ… **Day Off Policy**
"I'm not available for lessons or non-emergency communication on Sundays."

βœ… **Vacation Boundaries**
"When I'm on vacation, I'm truly unavailable. Emergency contacts and makeup lesson policies are provided in advance."

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**The Boundary Conversation Scripts**
**When Students Push Back on Communication Boundaries**

Student: "But I really need to know about tomorrow's lesson!"
You: "I understand you're eager to confirm. I'll respond first thing in the morning during business hours."

Student: "Can't you just make an exception this once?"
You: "I keep consistent policies so everyone knows what to expect. This helps me be the best instructor possible for all my students."

**When Families Request Financial Accommodations**

Family: "We can't afford full price. Can you give us a discount?"
You: "I understand budget constraints. Let me share some options: we could do every other week, try group lessons, or I can refer you to another instructor with different pricing."

Family: "Other instructors charge less."
You: "You're right that prices vary. My rates reflect my experience, insurance, and the individual attention each student receives. I'm confident in the value I provide."

**When Scheduling Becomes Demanding**

Student: "I know it's last minute, but can we move today's lesson?"
You: "I require 24-hour notice for changes to ensure fair scheduling for all students. We can look at next week's options."

Student: "Can't you stay late just this once?"
You: "I end lessons at 6 PM to maintain energy and focus for all my students. Let's find a time within regular hours."

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**Boundaries by Student Type...**

**The Overachiever Parent**
Common boundary challenges:
- Wants extra discussion time after lessons
- Sends lengthy emails about child's progress
- Requests special accommodations for shows

Boundary approach: "I provide 5-minute post-lesson summaries. For longer discussions, we can schedule a separate consultation."

**The Last-Minute Scheduler**
Common boundary challenges:
- Always trying to reschedule
- Shows up late consistently
- Expects flexibility without reciprocity

Boundary approach: "Consistent scheduling helps me provide the best instruction. Let's find a regular time that works for your family."

**The Budget Negotiator**
Common boundary challenges:
- Constantly asking for discounts
- Paying late regularly
- Expecting free services

Boundary approach: "I offer payment plans to help with budgeting. Let's set up a system that works for everyone."

**The Emergency Creator**
Common boundary challenges:
- Everything is urgent
- Contacts outside business hours frequently
- Expects immediate responses

Boundary approach: "I respond to true emergencies immediately. For planning questions, I respond within 24 hours during business days."

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**The Hidden Benefits of Strong Boundaries**

**For Your Students: **
🎯 **Better Instruction Quality**
You're more focused, energetic, and present during lessons

πŸ“… **Predictable Service**
They know what to expect and can plan accordingly

πŸ’ͺ **Modeling Healthy Habits**
Students learn that professionals have boundaries and self-respect

πŸ† **Consistent Experience**
No favoritism or exceptions that create unfairness

**For Your Business**
πŸ’° **Sustainable Pricing**
No discounts means you can actually make a living

πŸ“ˆ **Professional Reputation**
Clear policies attract serious, committed students

⏰ **Efficient Operations**
Less time managing exceptions means more time teaching

πŸ”„ **Reduced Turnover**
Sustainable boundaries prevent instructor burnout

**For Your Personal Life**
😴 **Better Rest**
Clear work/personal time separation

πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§β€πŸ‘¦ **Family Time**
Actual availability for your own loved ones

πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ **Reduced Stress**
Less anxiety about being "on call" constantly

πŸ’ͺ **Professional Confidence**
Standing firm on boundaries builds self-respect

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**Implementing Boundaries Without Losing Students**

**Start with Communication**

πŸ“’ **Announce Changes Positively**
"To provide the best possible instruction, I'm implementing some policies that will help me serve you better."

πŸ“‹ **Put It in Writing**
Clear policies prevent "I didn't know" conversations later.

🀝 **Explain the Benefits**
"This ensures I'm always energized and focused during your lessons."

⏰ **Give Transition Time**
"These policies go into effect next month, giving everyone time to adjust."

**Handle Pushback Professionally**

πŸ’¬ **Stay Calm and Factual**
"I understand this is different from before. This policy helps me provide consistent, quality instruction."

πŸ”„ **Offer Alternatives**
"While I can't do X, here are some options that might work for you."

🎯 **Focus on Student Benefits**
"This ensures you get my full attention and energy during lessons."

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**Common Boundary Mistakes (And How to Avoid Them)**

**Mistake 1: Apologizing for Your Boundaries**
❌ "I'm sorry, but I can't..."
βœ… "My policy is..."

**Mistake 2: Over-Explaining**
❌ "I can't answer texts at night because my family needs me and I get tired and..."
βœ… "I respond to messages during business hours."

**Mistake 3: Making Exceptions "Just This Once"**
❌ Every exception creates pressure for future exceptions
βœ… Consistent application builds respect

**Mistake 4: Setting Boundaries When You're Angry**
❌ Emotional boundary-setting sounds punitive
βœ… Set boundaries when you're calm and can explain rationally

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**Boundaries for Different Business Stages**

**New Instructor (First Year)**
Start with basic boundaries:
- Business hour communication
- Payment terms
- Basic scheduling policies

Focus: "I'm establishing professional practices that serve everyone well."

**Established Instructor (2-5 Years)**
Refine and strengthen:
- More specific policies
- Consequences for boundary violations
- Premium services for premium requests

Focus: "My experience has taught me what works best for student success."

**Veteran Instructor (5+ Years)**
Model excellence:
- Comprehensive policy manual
- Clear service tiers
- Professional development boundaries

Focus: "These practices ensure I continue providing excellent instruction sustainably."

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**Your Boundary Action Plan**

**Week 1: Assessment**
- List your current boundary struggles
- Identify which ones affect your teaching quality
- Choose ONE boundary to strengthen first

**Week 2: Policy Creation**
- Write clear, positive policy language
- Practice explaining it to a friend
- Plan implementation timeline

**Week 3: Communication**
- Announce new boundary to existing students
- Include it in new student materials
- Prepare for questions and pushback

**Week 4: Implementation**
- Enforce consistently, kindly, and professionally
- Document what works and what needs adjustment
- Celebrate your progress!

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**The Ripple Effect of Strong Boundaries**

When you model healthy boundaries:
🌟 **Students Learn Life Skills**
They see how professionals operate and respect themselves

πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§β€πŸ‘¦ **Families Learn Respect**
They understand that quality services require professional treatment

πŸ† **Industry Standards Rise**
Other instructors feel empowered to set their own boundaries

πŸ’ͺ **Your Confidence Grows**
Each boundary successfully maintained builds professional self-respect

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**The Bottom Line**

Boundaries aren't about being mean or difficult. They're about:

βœ… **Protecting your energy** for excellent instruction
βœ… **Creating predictable** service for students
βœ… **Building sustainable** business practices
βœ… **Modeling healthy** professional behavior
βœ… **Ensuring longevity** in your teaching career

**Strong boundaries don't drive away good students - they attract them.** Professional families want instructors who respect themselves and their craft.

**Weak boundaries don't just hurt you - they hurt every student who gets a tired, stressed, resentful instructor instead of your best self.**

**Remember: You can't pour from an empty cup. Boundaries keep your cup full so you can serve others generously and sustainably.**

Our friends from Kingdom Builders Family Life Center visited us today, with their Summer Campers, family members and sta...
06/19/2025

Our friends from Kingdom Builders Family Life Center visited us today, with their Summer Campers, family members and staff. They had a tour of our facility, met all the horses, and learned about horse care, behaviour, management and grooming. Despite the intense heat they all had a great time interacting with the horses. Once we retreated to the shade of the barn Poppy enjoyed the extra attention (and lots of cookies!).

Huge photo dump from this week's Horse Camp -Throughout the 4 days of Camp our participants learned about barn rules and...
06/14/2025

Huge photo dump from this week's Horse Camp -

Throughout the 4 days of Camp our participants learned about barn rules and safety, how to identify horse colours, haltering, leading, grooming, tacking up, etc. They rode every day both with saddles and ba****ck. There were equitation patterns and mounted games, and showmanship too. Our regular riders learned to use the arena safely as independent riders, both in walk and trot and without stirrups, and our beginner rider learned how to mount, dismount, rider position, hold reins and walk around the arena, both with a leader and with a sidewalker, and navigate cones and poles. Also some fun backwards riding and round the world exercises.

Barn activities included cleaning pens, cleaning and conditioning saddles and bridles, arts and crafts, including painting a light up unicorn, learning how to bandage a leg with Vetwrap how to measure a horse, and a really fun art project with materials and instruction provided by famous local art, crafts and photography expert, Sarah.

On the last day, activities included a field trip to local hay and feed store Bartlett Hay and Feed, and then more riding, which included a fun game of' Simon Says'. Before lunch, all camp horses were bathed, including manes, legs, tails shampooed, with the help of Kerry. Then the huge Horsemanship ribbons were awarded to our campers, and they finished with a hike across the pasture for a Barn Scavenger Hunt. Campers went home with ribbons, gift bags, horse themed back packs with matching lunch bag and pencil case, and a horse themed paint by numbers, plus some aching muscles, a little sunburn, and lots of fun memories!

Many thanks to everyone who helped with Camp, especially the unstoppable Emily, and art expert Sarah, and Kerry and Emma too.

Thanks to our awesome camp horses; Patsy, Poppy and Winnie. Such rare and much treasured unicorns, for sure.

That's it guys. Due to some unexpected circumstances beyond my control we have had to cancel our July Camp. Families have been notified and full refunds will be issued. Furthermore, there will be no more Camps at Hidden Creek Equestrian Center, it's time to leave that particular activity in the past. We are grateful to all those who have participated in AND ASSISTED with Camps for over 2 decades. I also need a break, and this is the right time to say goodbye to Summer Camps.

06/06/2025
Q. When there is a kitty on the diagonal line can you still ride the diagonal line?A. Yes, but always remember that kitt...
05/16/2025

Q. When there is a kitty on the diagonal line can you still ride the diagonal line?

A. Yes, but always remember that kitty's rule, and you must always accommodate whatever the kitty wants, so ride your diagonal line with a little kink in it, to keep the kitty safe.

'No animals were harmed during this this pole exercise', as Caleb pointed out.

Featuring barn kitty Smudge, he's the best ❀️

Miss Poppy, enjoying her double size pen with shelter. She says life is pretty good here.  Yes, I had to get her up for ...
05/16/2025

Miss Poppy, enjoying her double size pen with shelter. She says life is pretty good here. Yes, I had to get her up for just one lesson today. We love our amazing lesson horses!

It's been a busy weekend of lessons here; I walked a total of 19.8 miles in 2 days, this is actually not unusual on busy...
05/05/2025

It's been a busy weekend of lessons here; I walked a total of 19.8 miles in 2 days, this is actually not unusual on busy days. But after collapsing in my recliner last night, my body was tired, but my brain was running on overtime. What was troubling me the most? Horses and people.....and how can PEOPLE do better for horses?

It was this........the noise, too much of it.

I still 'see' too much noise, too often; quiet your hands, quiet your legs, quiet your seat, quiet your body language, your actions, your voice, your intentions and your expectations. Quiet your human demands, slow your speed, work on horse time, not human time. The horse is not a machine programed to react in a certain manner, within a certain time frame, to a certain pressure, just to please you. Did you read that properly? I said NOT.

Horses are responsible for one thing and one thing only - being a horse. Anything more which is required by the handler or rider, is THEIR responsibility.

There are many people who may have great horse RIDING skills, who still lack great horse READING skills. It takes a long time, and effort and commitment to the horse, to build both sets of skills, but is necessary for the horse and human partnership to grow, remain stable, and flourish thereafter.

Be quieter, please; the horse has a lot they can teach you, but you can only learn if you start listening.

β€œFrom horses, we may learn not only about the horse itself but also about animals in general, indeed about ourselves and...
02/22/2025

β€œFrom horses, we may learn not only about the horse itself but also about animals in general, indeed about ourselves and about life as a whole.” – George Ga***rd Simpson.

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6760 Falcon Grassy Hts
Falcon, CO
80831

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Tuesday 7am - 8pm
Wednesday 7am - 8pm
Thursday 7am - 8pm
Friday 7am - 8pm
Saturday 7am - 8pm
Sunday 7am - 8pm

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