03/31/2026
I innately know what people and their horses need.
Often times I act as a sort of translator between the humans thinking mind and their embodied wisdom. Iâm a way shower of sorts. I know what they both need but I donât try to give it to them. I walk beside them, guide them, so that they may find it in themselves.
Most everyone I have ever worked with knows when something doesnât feel right but all too often they try to âfixâ it (whether âitâ is themselves or their horses it doesnât really matter) rather than pause, feel, and witness.
All behavior is just information.
(Yours and your horses.)
When you can zoom out and listen you begin to witness your horse and yourself from a place of âthis is what it feels like to be me right now.â
You no longer need to escape the present moment by creating a story or narrative of whatâs happening.
You can sink in and listen to yourself.
âWhat does it feel like to be me right now?â
You can sink into the present and witness your horse.
âWhat does it feel like to be you right now?â
When you enter the space of curiosity you release the need to have it all âfigured outâ or to âfixâ it and you can just be with what is.
When you can be with what is, you can see the truth of the matter beyond the story your mind tells and (more importantly) you realize that sometimes it wonât make sense in the moment and thatâs okay.
I had a horse in a session a couple months ago that was perfect for the groundwork and perfect for the lunging but once his rider hopped on he refused to walk.
I didnât coach the rider through coercing him into walking. Instead we paused with the horse and we witnessed.
He was happy to just be. He was present, attentive, and engaged when his rider wasnât trying to do anything but the moment she asked for more he showed her where his boundaries were. They were quiet, simple and clear. âNo, I will not walk.â
So I walked her through releasing her own expectations, trusting her horses embodied wisdom, and I also allowed her to entertain all the reasons he could be saying ânoâ.
Does his saddle need checking? How does his tummy feel? Is he sore anywhere? We didnât find anything but it was good for this rider to learn to listen to the horse, trust the horse, and to go through her logical minds list of possibilities without then trying again to get her horse going.
I ended the session with her and her horse having not walked a step. Horse and rider felt grounded and clear and okay with the mystery.
The next day the horse had clear signs of a hoof abscess.
The day before: perfectly sound on the lunge and in hand but refused to walk forward under saddle.
I was elatedđťâ¨
Not because the horse had an abscess, but because the rider trusted the horse and listened to his ânoâ even when ânothing was wrongâ.
The horses âwordsâ and boundaries were not overridden, ignored, or pushed through.
Do you know how hard that is for humans? To trust and not push. To not try to âfixâ or make sense of things; to just witness and listen.
Thatâs a HUGE FREAKING SKILL TO MASTER!
The main thing I do between horses and their riders: I help the human mind sit in the discomfort of trusting and not knowing. To really slow down and release expectation and get comfortable doing nothing because doing nothing when something isnât working is hard as hell. (I know, Iâve been theređ)
Iâve learned it does get easier but weâve been so conditioned as humans to push, and make, or to crumple up on a ball, or give up whenever things are hard or donât make sense that itâs a truly remarkable when you begin to master the art of doing nothing. Of being in surrender to the present without collapsing or giving up. Itâs a beautiful space to embody and to bring forward into your relationship with yourself as well as with your horse.
Learning to show up in this way is an act of devotion; to yourself and your horse. When you begin to show up in this way so much beauty and strength is birthed within you. And then one day you can just sit in the space beyond agenda or knowing and just be and thatâs where the real magic of relating unfolds.
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