04/25/2023
Decompression
🌮Food for thought. Have you ever started a new job, with new people, environment, and role and felt confident and comfortable instantly? Imagine showing up on day one and not knowing where you desk is, the password to your computer, or what you’re supposed to be doing. Or what about your children starting at a new school with new classmates and teacher. It can be terrifying. In those moments of being new, it helps to know that there is safety, and that there is someone we can rely on to show us or our kids around. It also helps to know what is expected.
We as humans have the cognitive ability to understand the depth of change we put ourselves in, and we still need time to adjust. We also have the ability for the most part to say yes or no to new situations. Dogs do not have the power to say where they want to go. But they can tell us what they need if we are willing to slow down and listen.
🕊️The standard with decompression is 3 days, but that should not mean your new foster is ready to rock and role. The 3 days is just a start of acclimation. This is your first opportunity to establish a relationship and create trust. When a dog trusts a human first, they start to trust the environment the human puts them in.
⚠️From a dogs perspective, you are a stranger, you house is a strange environment, and your resident dogs are strange too.
😤If your foster is more on the pushy side, immediately allowing freedom of choice and space can result in unruly behavior just down the road. Lack of limitations gives a pushy dog permission to be pushy. The less relevant you are as their leader, the more pushy a forward dog can be.
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© If your foster is nervous, insecure, and unsure, they may actually need more time to settle in. I wish could say this means they need more affection and cuddles, however if that was enough to help a dog feel confident, trainers wouldn't be needed. Giving them too much freedom can give them too much to worry about.
That often leaves lack of trust in a Human to handle things that may be overwhelming. The more direction these dogs get with boundaries and limitations, the less they have to worry about.
You will earn cool "foster mom" points from vour foster dog.
*a The ultimate form of affection is to fulfill your dog as a dog and to help them feel safe, calm, and confident in the world.
* Dogs that are nervous, anxious, insecure will sometimes cling to humans. However, this does not change the way they feel. If a dog has a hard time being away from us while we are home, we are setting them up to fail when we leave. We will talk separation anxiety soon.
Biggest tip I can provide is to slow the process down. It is not going to hurt to take even more time than what you think. It is so much easier to add in little by little than it is to go too fast and have to correct down the road. Sometimes trust has already been lost. You can get it back, but you'll have to work twice as hard to be believable.
Slow down, and let the decompression time marinade. Besides, what's the rush?
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