12/09/2025
This is so important. Boundaries are the MOST important in rescue. None of us would survive this work if we did not learn to create boundaries.
Can rescuers save animals without sacrificing themselves? I think about that sometimes.
Last year, I auctioned off some personal items that I loved (and needed) to pay for animal care. Someone said, "Well, when you run a rescue, sometimes you just have to go without. That is just how it is."
Weeks later, someone said, "When you become a rescuer, you need to learn to live in poverty. That is just how it is."
Another time, someone said, "If you cannot afford to care for the animals. Get a second job or third job. That is what I do."
Before the cat building existed, I made a hard boundary and said, "I do not want to have 30 cats in my actual home".... Another rescuer said, "We ALL sacrifice space in our homes. That is how it is."
I feel that it is important to remind others that, normalizing and encouraging rescuers to push their own boundaries is not OK. As a rescuer, you should not have to "go without" or "live in poverty" or work multiple jobs to care for society's unwanted animals (you are a VOLUNTEER). You must be your own advocate. Gently remind others, "No. That is not how it is." Just because they are choosing a difficult path, does not mean that that you must too.
And this goes for SO many jobs. Just because your coworker says it is normal to work unpaid weekends, that doesn't mean that you have to. Just because someone is working themselves to near-death and encourages you to do the same, it doesn't mean that you need to follow in their footsteps.
Kyle wanted me to add that there is a reason that su***de rates for rescuers are high. It is, largely, because so many rescuers ARE suffering. Society continues to encourage/normalize their suffering. Encouraging rescuers to work harder, take on more animals, work longer hours, fill every space in their home. To the point where those same rescuers experience mental health breaks. Or they burn out. Or they quit. Or they may even take their own lives.
If you see a rescuer struggling (and there sure are a lot of them these days), please do not say things like "That is just how it is" - Do not try to normalize it. Offer solutions. Help them create better boundaries. Have empathy. Find ways to be supportive 🙌❤️