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Happy Gotcha Day Zana and Nyx!! Four years ago you arrived on our farm. Life wouldn’t be the same without you! We love y...
04/29/2026

Happy Gotcha Day Zana and Nyx!! Four years ago you arrived on our farm. Life wouldn’t be the same without you! We love you and look forward to many, many more wonderful years with you!

04/20/2026

Teaching your horse to not mug you.

Chaotic Consent vs. Structured Consent In my last post, I talked about how training is influencing the horse and how tha...
03/21/2026

Chaotic Consent vs. Structured Consent

In my last post, I talked about how training is influencing the horse and how that looks when applied to unhandled or barely handled mustangs and does apply to any horse. Horse and human influence each other when working with a consent based framework. Yesterday, I had a lesson with one of my clients. Her name is Allison Wolfe and she adopted a Sand Springs, Oregon buckskin mustang mare she named Juniper. They have a wonderful, strong partnership in a consent based framework. During the lesson, it struck me that how I look at what consent means in training was something I already did but hadn’t put into words yet.

When a horse disengages or when we give them a break, we are allowed to ask for the horse to reengage with us. Horses work with intention and response with each other. When working with us, we can use a similar approach. When the horse is disengaged during a session, look for reset behaviors and signals before you ask the horse to reengage again. Just a gentle feel on a lead or long line to bring their focus to you as you ask them to come with you. If they are a little resistant, that’s ok. It’s a new cue. Mark and reward their willingness to reengage. If they are very resistant, give them a little more time and look for the reset signals again. Ask again. If they stay resistant, maybe try later in the day or even the next day.

The horse learns over time that coming back is positive, the human can hear them and be aware, and the horse is comfortable being influenced. The horse becomes less likely to disengage and faster to reengage. The horse is still heard and understood. The horse already understands this conversation flow, it’s just now being applied to the human in a softer way than horses do with each other. Chaotic consent is a free-for-all. The horse does what they want and the human disappears. It’s an easy mistake to make and then you can feel torn about how do you get the horse to listen to you without force. Structured consent is the horse and human having a conversation and coming to a mutual agreement.

You are allowed to ask your horse to listen to you as well.



(Thank you Allison for consenting to tagging you and sharing part of your adventures together with Juniper. Photo is not from our session.)

Training is influencing the horse.I saw a post today that prompted me to think about how I work with mustangs. When trai...
03/18/2026

Training is influencing the horse.

I saw a post today that prompted me to think about how I work with mustangs. When training any horse, the human is influencing the horse. The horse’s responses influence the human. The relationship built with a horse is shaped by human and horse influencing each other. That means observation, awareness, communication, clarity, boundaries, and safety.

With unhandled or barely handled mustangs, they don’t understand the human and influencing them is difficult. Training mustangs at this stage starts with the human introducing themselves to the horse and observing where the horse’s spatial boundary is starting from, how curious they are about the human, where their reactions sit on the scale of wary to reactive. The first intentional interactions with the horse, offering hay from the hand, is often where the human first starts introducing the idea that choosing to interact with the human is safe and predictable.

As the horse becomes more comfortable, the human is able to influence the horse in more direct and recognizable ways. The human must stay aware and be patient. The human starts setting their own boundaries right away just like the horse has already communicated their boundaries. As the horse associates the human with consistency, food, and neutral activities like mucking or filling water, they begin to relax. With that relaxation comes a greater willingness to be influenced. These pieces don’t happen in a strict order. They build together like a conversation unfolding.

Working with unhandled or barely handled mustangs can be a slow process when done without high pressure and a consent-based framework. It’s not always slow. Some mustangs are naturally curious and can be easy to gentle and easy to start teaching more complex skills. Some mustangs are very reactive and slow to trust, like my girl Zana was. Yet it took less time than it felt back then. It was six months of learning to listen, observe, be truly patient, and learning to be clear for us to reach the point where we were influencing each other, both safe, and both able to opt out.

Training horses is influencing them, no matter where they start. Whether it’s an unhandled mustang, a barely handled mustang, a gentled mustang, mustangs that already have a good relationship with their human, and of course this applies to domestic bred horses no matter where they are starting from. Training horses with consent means both horse and human have a say. The horse and human influence each other. Safety, boundaries, clarity, communication, and awareness all live there. When a mustang feels safe, heard, understood, and has clarity from the human; they are willing to be influenced by the human. They are willing to go along with the human’s ideas and often begin to seek out the human’s ideas because they want to engage.

Horses don’t ask why. They respond honestly.When working with our mares, we work at the horse’s pace. When I work with a...
03/15/2026

Horses don’t ask why. They respond honestly.

When working with our mares, we work at the horse’s pace. When I work with any other horses, I work at the horse’s pace. There of course is some stretching of comfort so the horse can learn and grow. I used to keep in mind the horse is asking me why when I ask something of them and they hesitate or say no. It kept me curious, aware, and looking for why is the horse responding in that manner. At some point I started to wonder if I was framing my thought process correctly and in a way that allowed me to understand the horse’s communication clearly.

Yesterday I realized that my mental framework has always been “What is the horse communicating” and “Why is the horse communicating this answer”. I wasn’t actually looking at the horse’s communication with hesitation or a ‘no’ as the horse asking me “why should I do this”. I was already looking at it as “This is what the horse is telling me”.

When one horse tells another horse ‘no’, the horse being told no doesn’t ask the other horse why. They just hear the answer and respond. They are regularly communicating with each other but no one is asking why they got the response that they did. Humans love ‘why’. So we see our horses doing things and it’s natural for us to ask, “why are they doing that?” We are so used to asking ‘why’ that it’s easy to use that framework with our horses, dogs, and cats, and other highly social animals that humans interact with regularly. So I understand why humans frame things from the animal’s perspective as they are asking ‘why’ when they hesitate or say no.

Hesitation can have multiple reasons. The horse doesn’t understand the ask, the horse is unsure if they want to comply with the ask, they need a moment to decide if they want to comply. Deciding if they want to comply is not them asking “why should I comply with your ask”; it’s them deciding if the pull of what they were doing before the human showed up is stronger than the pull to the human or maybe they are wondering if the direction you are asking them to go feels safe. Horses respond in the moment to the environment and others around them. Scary movements further down in the direction you want to go, the horse may hesitate to decide if they feel safe enough or are comfortable enough to comply. The horse may also be deciding if they want to say no.

So building a strong partnership with your horse will help with those hesitation situations. If you have a solid and positive relationship, the horse will be more likely to go along with your ask. They know they can rely on your responses and awareness. You are predictable. The horse hesitates, we should pause and ask ‘why’. When the horse hesitates, it’s information that the human can use to ask ‘why’ and use our deductive reasoning to understand what the horse is communicating. We can respond from there.

Horses are always communicating. “Yes”, “No”, “I’m unsure”, “I don’t understand”, “I have a different idea”. They are honest responses to the ask from the humans.

03/03/2026
01/29/2026

Nyx and Minnie being playful with each other as Zana just keeps on foraging in the snow. I love how playful Minnie has turned out to be🥰 mare

Horses are amazing animals. They are aware, smart, social, and have wonderful personalities. Having a partnership with t...
12/27/2025

Horses are amazing animals. They are aware, smart, social, and have wonderful personalities. Having a partnership with them takes time and patience. Building a true partnership with them is more valuable than anyone can really describe. That’s what we do at Heart Horse Pathways. We help you build a partnership with your horse that’s based on care, trust, choice, and accurately reading horse body language. We will help you build a shared language with your horse so you both can hear each other safely and clearly. We teach handling skills without harshness or force, mustang gentling, domestic bred and already gentled mustang horse help, help with building boundaries, and more. Our goal at HHP is to provide concrete support for humans and their horses. We want to encourage and empower you and your horse. I will be working with a few clients over the next three months in a customized and more detailed way that meets their individual needs. I have a few spots still available for those who are interested. Feel free to message me for more information and let’s see if we are best suited to help you and your horse.

The Social Media Exploitation of Loving Horse OwnersI’ve been seeing lots of posts about letting horses be horses, horse...
12/05/2025

The Social Media Exploitation of Loving Horse Owners
I’ve been seeing lots of posts about letting horses be horses, horse first trainers popping up like prairie dogs, every sort of mystical connection courses, clinics, offerings, every sort of human -horse connection courses, clinics, offerings, all sorts of neuroscience and pseudo-neuroscience stuff, liberty that may or may not be liberty work, positive reinforcement and gentle pressure and release offerings. Some posts are great. Some posts sound too good to be true. Some posts sound scientific and actually are scientific. Some posts sound scientific but are only “scientific” because they use science wording. In the end, we have to ask ourselves if each post we read or reel we watch is giving us real, solid information or is only as solid as a cloud.

Being “horse first” is the current movement but there is a lot of snake oil being sold. We each need to critically think about the content we consume to determine if it’s legitimate information or a slide that leads us to keep emptying your wallet for the promise of connection and training help that never fully materializes. Social media is designed to hit us in the feels. Overriding our logic centers. There are trainers that want to keep the person feeling the way they want them to feel so they benefit. There are trainers that want to keep you following their carrot stick for as long as possible without you knowing that’s what’s happening. There are trainers that talk about neuroscience and other scientific things but if you dig even a little bit; you can see it’s science flavored, non-peer reviewed, horsesh*t. As well as being actual peer reviewed science but it only applies to humans and hasn’t been studied for its application to horses.

Be vigilant. Don’t be afraid to check and see if what’s being said is legitimate or just sounds legitimate. It’s easy to manipulate emotions. It’s harder to set those emotions aside and critically think about what you read or heard. In your search for help with your horses, don’t forget to help yourself.

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