03/25/2026
This all day
The training industry is caught up in a hyper-intellectual and hyper-emotional phase that it’s passing along to struggling owners.
The message: You have to know the foundational emotional cause of your dog’s behavior before you can take action on the behavior.
This larger message also contains the usual underlying fear message: If you DO take action before knowing the why, you’ll do some kind of irreversible damage to your dog and your relationship.
Of course this is all nonsense. As I’ve said many times, you can’t know the why—you can guess, but that’s all it will ever be. Not to mention, to think there’s only one why that’s causing a behavior rather than a stew of whys all acting simultaneously in concert, is absurdly reductive.
What CAN you know with absolute certainty?
You CAN know if a behavior is healthy. You CAN know if a behavior appropriate. You CAN know if a behavior is desired.
What’s fascinating, and what should be extremely comforting, is that what IS knowable, and thus actionable—is this simple observable behavioral criteria: Is the behavior healthy, appropriate, desired (H.A.D.).
Yep, I know it sounds far too simple, and far too clear, and far too unambiguous, and far too un-confusing… but that’s the kicker about all this dog training stuff, it’s not the wildly complex, confusing, overwhelming thing the training industrial complex wants you to believe it is.
It’s actually rather simple and straightforward. But only if you let it be what it actually is.
So next time you’re struggling with your dog’s behavior—whether it be jumping, barking, reactivity, guarding, door charging, aggression etc—instead of getting mired in the search for the why, simply ask yourself the H.A.D. questions. And then, like a miracle from above, you’ll be empowered with the necessary clarity to take action and actually change the problem behavior.
And you’ll be well on your way to creating a healthy, happy, well-behaved, and enjoyable dog.