12/15/2025
People often think they stay calm around their horses. Or that they should. Or that staying calm is simply a matter of choosing to relax. But your body is not wired that simply. Your nervous system reacts to a horse’s activation long before you form a conscious thought about what is happening.
Two nervous systems meet each time you interact with a horse. Both constantly read, adjust, and respond to each other. This is not emotional weakness. This is biology. This is relationship. This is the foundation of everything we do in the Whole Horse Journey.
Here is what is happening inside your system when your horse activates, from a scientific, somatic, and trauma informed perspective.
1. Neuroception begins scanning before you have time to think
The moment your horse lifts their head, stops moving, braces, flares their nostrils, or freezes, your neuroception activates. Neuroception is the body’s built-in surveillance system described in Polyvagal Theory. It works below conscious awareness and evaluates cues of safety, danger, and life threat.
Your body reads the horse’s posture, speed of movement, breath, tone, and even tiny shifts in facial expression. You feel something before you understand something. This is your biology doing its job.
2. Sympathetic activation prepares your system
If something feels uncertain, your nervous system mobilises. This is not panic. This is preparation.
Heart rate rises. Breath becomes shallow or faster. Muscles co contract. Vision narrows slightly. The gut slows. The body reallocates energy to the limbs. The fascia and surrounding tissues begin to ready themselves for movement, although how fascia participates is still being researched.
This is the body saying be ready. It is normal. It is functional. It is not a sign of weakness or incompetence.
3. Old implicit patterns try to take the wheel
Humans carry history in their bodies. Not as conscious memories, but as implicit patterns. Times you felt unsafe. Times you felt responsible for keeping things together. Times you were punished for mistakes. Times you learned that activation meant danger or conflict.
When your horse activates, those patterns can reappear. You may tense, snap into control mode, shut down, dissociate, over focus, over correct, or feel the urge to do something immediately.
This is not the present moment. This is your past trying to steer the present. It is a normal expression of a system protecting itself.
4. Co regulation becomes more complex when both systems rise
A horse in activation influences your system. Your system in activation influences the horse. Co regulation is a biological process, not a personality trait. It is not all or nothing. Even partially regulated humans can offer stabilising signals. But the more activation rises in either system, the harder it becomes to share regulation clearly.
This is not failure. It is simply two autonomic systems doing what they were designed to do. It is why regulation cannot be forced and why presence is a moving, living process rather than a fixed state.
5. The body expresses stress through somatic patterns
Humans have ancient patterns for threat response. Breath holding. Tightened pelvic floor. Locked knees. Braced shoulders. Jaw tension. Over stillness. Over activity. Hyper focus on reins or lead ropes. Excessive talking. Going silent.
These patterns are not flaws. They are strategies. They were shaped long before you ever touched a horse. They reveal how your system creates stability when the world feels uncertain.
6. Trauma history shapes your threshold but does not define your capacity
If you have lived through chronic stress, inconsistent environments, emotional neglect, relational tension, or trauma, your system may reach activation more quickly. This does not always mean your balloon is full. It means your system learned to stay alert in order to survive.
This does not mean you cannot work with horses. Many of the most intuitive, sensitive, capable horse people have lived through exactly these histories. It simply means you need compassion for yourself as much as for the horse. It means your body may need different types of support to return to baseline.
7. Resolution and completion follow the event
Once the moment passes and your horse settles, your system seeks completion. You may sigh, tremble, yawn, tear up, shake out your hands, feel tired, or feel uniquely clear. These are normal somatic signs of the nervous system restoring balance.
Your body is reorganising itself. It is integrating what happened. It is not overreacting. It is repairing.
Why this matters for horsemanship
Because your horse does not only read your behaviour. They read your biology. They feel your breath, your heart rhythm, your fascia tension, your subtle postural responses, and the energy that rises or settles inside you. They feel the story your body is telling even when you are trying to project calm.
This is not about striving for perfection. It is about understanding the hidden conversation between two systems. When you know what is happening inside you, you can separate your story from your horse’s story. You can respond instead of react. You can offer clarity instead of pressure. You can meet the horse in a grounded way even when activation rises.
A regulated human is not one who never activates. A regulated human is one who understands what is happening inside their body and can return themselves to connection.
That is the heart of this work. The Whole Horse Journey is not only about the horse. It is about the human who steps into the field with an entire history, an entire biology, and an entire nervous system of their own.
And when both systems feel understood, everything changes.
