09/07/2025
You’ve done the classes, chatted about birth plans, compared pram notes and joked about perineal massage… but now the babies are here. And real postnatal life? It’s often messier, lonelier, and far more emotional than the group chats can prepare you for. We only know what we know, and we can often feel vulnerable when we are adapting and adjusting to a huge life change, like, er, well, having a baby!! NCT is a great foundation to build on, for a new mummy social life but here are a few more tips on how to navigate;
🧡 1. Stay connected (but be real)
Some NCT groups become soul-sister circles. Others drift. Both are okay. If you’re not vibing with the chat, you’re not alone. Find your people — the ones who meet you where you’re at, not where you “should” be.
💛 2. Don’t compare — connect
Some babies sleep through. Some don’t. Some parents are baking banana bread at 10am, some haven’t showered in 3 days. Behind every filtered photo is a human doing their best. Let comparison go and lean into compassion (for yourself too).
💬 3. Say the real stuff out loud
It’s okay to say you’re struggling. That you feel flat, touched out, or unsure. Vulnerability invites connection — and chances are, someone else is feeling it too.
💆🏻♀️ 4. Bring in extra support if you need it
NCT gives you the basics, but the reality of postnatal life needs a village. A postnatal doula can offer rest, guidance, food, and reassurance — a steady presence when you’re finding your way.
🌱 5. Redefine what your village looks like
Maybe your NCT group becomes your tribe. Maybe your support comes from a neighbour, a sibling, or a local doula. The right support doesn’t have to look a certain way — it just has to feel safe, nourishing, and real.
Because after the course ends, the real work begins. And you deserve to feel held and safe through every part of it