29/12/2025
Three weeks ago, I had surgery and was diagnosed with endometriosis. Scars were removed from both ovaries, and recovery has been far rougher than I expected. I have been fighting for answers for nearly 15 years and have been dismissed countless times. This recent experience made me reflect on our attitude towards mares.
We have all heard, and even made, comments about âtypicalâ mares. We dismiss their behaviour, blame it on the fact that they are female, and often say we prefer geldings because they are easier.
I have done this myself. I always said I never wanted a mare, and for several years after getting Doris, I insisted she would be my last. I repeated to everyone that geldings were simply easier.
In truth, my mareâs behaviour was not normal. She was struggling, she was unhappy, and I regularly dismissed it by saying, âOh, sheâs just a typical mare.â
Once I made the necessary changes to her lifestyle, she became a completely different horse. No, she is not as openly affectionate as some horses, but that is not because she is a mare. She has had a much harsher life than many, and she is less trusting, for very good reason. Yet she is gentle, she is kind, and she has a heart of gold.
Mares are strong, independent, and maternal by nature. If a mare is displaying âmareishâ behaviour, something is wrong, and she is trying to tell you. I spent 15 years fighting for answers, and at least I could explain my symptoms to doctors. Our horses do not have that ability, so we must pay close attention to their behaviour.
In essence, misogyny is so deeply rooted in society that it even shows up in the horse industry. So many women know what it is like to be medically ignored and gaslighted, so why are we doing the same to our mares?
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