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Beautifully put by my friend and colleague. There is so much more to dogs than most people realise x
30/05/2026

Beautifully put by my friend and colleague.

There is so much more to dogs than most people realise x

One of the most damaging ideas ever introduced into the dog world is the belief that dogs are constantly trying to dominate each other and humans. The “dominance theory” model taught people to view behaviour through the lens of control, hierarchy, defiance, and power struggles. Growling became a challenge. Avoidance became manipulation. Reactivity became an attempt to “be alpha.” Instead of asking what a dog was experiencing emotionally or developmentally, the focus became how to suppress the behaviour and regain control.

The problem is that this theory was built on a misunderstanding from the very beginning.

Much of dominance theory came from early captive wolf studies, where unrelated wolves were placed together in artificial environments with limited space and resources. Under stress, conflict naturally emerged, and researchers interpreted these interactions through rigid hierarchical structures. But wild wolf families do not function like this. Modern wolf research has shown that wolf packs are primarily family units.

The “alpha wolf” idea itself was later rejected by the very researchers who originally popularised it.

Yet the dog world continued building entire training systems around outdated ideas of power and submission.

What is often missed is that dogs are not entering our homes trying to outrank us. They are mammals born into a nervous system that is seeking safety, connection, regulation, and belonging. Behaviour is not driven by a desire for dominance. It is driven by survival, emotion, genetics, developmental experiences, attachment, and the state of the nervous system.

This is where the work surrounding social characters becomes incredibly important.

At the Wolf and Dog Development Centre, the understanding of canine behaviour moves far beyond simplistic ideas of dominance. Their work explores the reality that dogs are born carrying innate social tendencies and emotional predispositions that would historically have served a purpose within a social group or survival structure. Not every dog is designed to move through the world in the same way. Some dogs are naturally orientated towards environmental awareness and scanning. Some are more socially driven and relationship-focused. Some are naturally cautious, investigative, nurturing, or highly responsive to movement and pressure.

These are not “bad traits.” They are social characteristics that, in a natural setting, would contribute to the survival and balance of the group.

When we misunderstand these traits through the lens of dominance, we pathologise normal canine behaviour. A vigilant dog becomes “controlling.” A sensitive dog becomes “stubborn.” A dog struggling with emotional regulation becomes “disobedient.” But often the dog is not trying to dominate anything at all. They are expressing an ingrained survival system colliding with an environment they cannot cope with.

This is one of the reasons punishment-based approaches can be so damaging. If behaviour is rooted in stress, fear, developmental conflict, or nervous system dysregulation, suppressing the outward behaviour does not resolve the internal state. In many cases, it simply drives the stress deeper into the system. The dog may appear “calm” while internally remaining overwhelmed, hypervigilant, or emotionally shut down.

The work of Shaun Ellis and Kim Ellis has also helped challenge many of the myths humans have projected onto wolves and dogs. Shaun Ellis became known for his immersive work living alongside wolves, seeing their communication, relationships, social structures, and behaviour in ways that differed dramatically from traditional dominance narratives. Rather than seeing constant aggression and battles for status, the picture that emerged was one of deep social cooperation, communication, emotional sensitivity, and role-based functioning within the group.

Their work highlights something the dog world still struggles to fully accept: social mammals survive through connection far more than conflict.

Wolves do not spend their lives attempting to overpower one another at every opportunity. Stable groups rely on trust, communication, and cooperative functioning. Young wolves are guided through development. Adults can adapt behaviour according to the needs of the group. Emotional signals matter. Social harmony matters. Relationships matter.

Dogs have inherited these deeply social mammalian systems, even though domestication has shaped them in unique ways over thousands of years.

This is why behaviour cannot be reduced to obedience alone.

A dog pulling on the lead doesn’t need “leadership.” A reactive dog doesn’t need harsher correction. A dog growling over food is not “challenging authority.” Often these dogs are communicating emotional conflict, insecurity, developmental deficits, chronic stress, or survival responses that humans have failed to understand.

The tragedy of dominance theory is that it taught generations of people to see communication as confrontation.

It encouraged owners to overpower signals instead of listening to them.

It framed trust based relationships as weakness.

And in doing so, it disconnected people from the emotional reality of the animal standing in front of them.

When we move beyond dominance theory, we begin to see dogs differently. We stop asking, “How do I control this dog?” and start asking, “What is this dog experiencing?” We begin looking at development, attachment, nervous system regulation, social needs, genetics, emotional safety, and relationship dynamics. We begin recognising that behaviour is not about winning power struggles. It is about understanding the mammal underneath the behaviour.

And perhaps most importantly, we stop forcing dogs into a constant battle for rank that never truly existed in the first place.

Wow it's hot. Not just hot, it's humid & horribly yucky!  I'd planned to take my pups to their regular field booking thi...
28/05/2026

Wow it's hot.

Not just hot, it's humid & horribly yucky! I'd planned to take my pups to their regular field booking this afternoon noting that it's overcast and breezy, but the humidity actually feels worse than the sun did 2 days ago.

So what are my dogs doing?

They're resting, like they have done all day. Like they do every day until I indicate that we're going out or doing something.

How many people have a dog that can't settle this week while routines are changed and walks are cancelled or reduced?

How many people have taken their dog out during peak heat times because it feels unbearable to see them distressed and unable to settle, becoming hyperactive or destructive because the routine has changed?

How many people are feeling frustrated because their dog has become super needy and clingy and they can't get any peace - their dog is constantly asking for things "attention seeking", or bringing you toys or balls to keep tugging or chasing, often barking if you want to stop?

This isn't about the heat, it's not about naughty dogs or attention seeking.

This is what we see when dogs rely on movement, regimented routine, activity and 'doing' things to get through the day, unable to switch off or cope with changes.

This happens when early development gaps appear, usually due to a loss or trauma that happened as a puppy or previous home: Even going to a new home, an amazing one, is a loss when we consider leaving mum and siblings behind. Those little losses and traumas add up when we don't repair them - and most of us were never taught how to do that.

When dogs can't settle, or seemingly push to go out and DO something, insisting that you keep playing with the ball/toy/tuggy. When they finish their lickimat and immediately come back for something else...

That's not a dog needing more exercise. More stimulation. More 'doing'.

That's a dog whose mind can't settle. Whose nervous system isn't regulated. Who is struggling on the inside but we often don't notice because they can keep busy 'doing'.

Days that force us to change up our routines can often highlight that our dogs need a little more support, and that sometimes, so do we.

What has this week highlighted for you?

Photo of Kenna for Tax!

28/05/2026

Here’s to all the dog walkers who have had to cancel walks this week.

To the ones living paycheck to paycheck, making the heartbreaking decision to put the welfare of the dogs first — even when rent is due, bills are piling up, and the food shop still needs paying for.

You are my heroes.

I feel incredibly lucky that my main outgoings are my vehicles, because I know for so many others, these weather extremes are hitting hard. And sadly, this is becoming our new normal — wet winters, unbearable spring and summer heat, one extreme after another.

Over the couple of years, so many new dog walkers have started their businesses, stepping into this industry at one of the toughest times imaginable.

The weather hasn’t just affected our income — it’s affected our mental health too. The stress, the uncertainty, the constant worry… it takes its toll.

And on top of all that, the cost of living has risen so dramatically.

Fuel costs, vehicle maintenance, insurance, food prices, rent, mortgages, utilities — everything has gone up, while many of us are earning less because of cancelled walks and unsafe temperatures.

It’s an exhausting balance trying to keep a business afloat while also trying to survive personally. For so many dog walkers, it feels like no matter how hard we work, we’re constantly trying to catch up.

But still, we keep going.

Why?

Because this is more than just a job to us. It’s a lifestyle. It’s a passion. It’s something we pour our whole hearts into every single day.

No matter the weather, no matter the setbacks, we continue showing up because we love these dogs like they’re our own.

So to every dog walker struggling quietly this week — I see you, I respect you, and I hope you’re proud of yourself for putting the dogs first, even when it costs you.

𝗖𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽 - 𝟯 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀 𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿! 𝗔𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲.This month I celebrate 1 year as full time with Dogvergent!...
26/05/2026

𝗖𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽 - 𝟯 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀 𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿! 𝗔𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲.

This month I celebrate 1 year as full time with Dogvergent! Woop!

When I first ventured into my part time walking services 3 years ago, I was advised clearly by professionals who'd been in this industry many years that I should start by charging £30 per hour for walks - JUST walks. No extra training or special support.

Of course, my self worth for little me, I started at £20/hr which felt fine at the time, but quickly grew into a problem because when you can only walk 3-4 dogs a day, it's not a living wage. Travel time, costs etc all count. Why 3-4 dogs a day? Because even then I offered a lot of emotional support and I'm no good to dog 5/6+ if I have nothing to give.

Exactly as warned, it's not easy to raise prices with existing clients, and I'm very grateful that some have been with me since the start, and accepted my small annual increases.

New clients have had higher pricing however it still hasn't hit the £30/hr mark. In the meantime, I have spent thousands on my personal development, trauma healing and my learning in the Hemene Approach which is ongoing. Plus IMDT training, Canine first aid plus other courses I've completed in reactivity & pain in dogs.

One of the reasons I haven't raised pricing is that I have had wonderful opportunities to adapt how I worked with dogs I knew and been able to see what a difference it made with them. I considered it a part of my professional growth.

Cutting out 'training' yet seeing better results.

The work I do often looks like 'nothing'. This is one reason why I get that Imposter Syndrome and feel like people may not realise how much I offer.

It could be 3 sessions a week for 4 months simply to get a dog stuck in survival to be comfortable accepting touch and support - which means after those months doing 'nothing' the dog can now look to me for support and his world can open up.

It can be supporting a dog through their coping mechanisms and trauma, helping them to feel safe, not trying to change them to make them fit a narrative.

It could be taking a dog for a walk and having no incidents. On the outside it looks like nothing. In reality it's constant support and regulation, offering choices, emotional support, regulation. It's providing a safe space and support so that the dog doesn't feel the need to pull anymore, or the need to react intensely to things they used to.

It quite often is recognising a trigger, offering a safe support, making a different choice and just 'being' with the dog - even if that's sitting in the back of my van with them offering regulation for 20 minutes while they process an unplanned scary noise.

The point being, these are never just walks. They are so much more, for every dog I support. It's also not something I can switch off, this is who I am, what I offer and a way of life, not something I switch on for an hour at a time.

As a Canine Development Specialist, I offer something unique, something only a handful of people have trained in.

I have the privilege of supporting dogs with their needs. This includes assessing day to day, hour to hour and minute to minute changes in them, the environment, recognising recent stressors and understanding what they are telling me in the moment. They had a stressful weekend? Your dog lets me know this when I arrive and we adapt our session to help regulate them. They don't feel up to a walk? They'll let me know. We're out on a walk and the environment changes? I recognise that as quickly as they do and make decisions to keep your dog safe based on their responses.

Once I have built a relationship with your dog, we really can have that conversation and understanding between us (I can teach this language to you too!)

I do have a couple of spots for new clients, please visit the link below for details.

I recognise that for most of my clients this also wasn't asked for when they started with me 2-3 years ago. Another reason why increasing pricing feels hard!

For this reason, I offer something unique to those I already support. Below is a link to my updated support page. Please have a read. I ask that you make me an offer of what you'd like to pay me for the service I currently offer you and your dog. If your budget supports what you currently pay, that's ok. I have no intention of losing any of the amazing dogs and people I work with - however if you can invest in your dogs support and to support me in continuing to offer a high standard of service (which includes limiting my work to have the social and emotional capacity for all of the dogs needs), it would be very appreciated. Zero judgement from me and I appreciate every family and their situation.

Another reason I wish to earn my worth, is so that I can in future choose to help someone in need. In the last year I have been able to offer 1 client support for a fraction of what I should have been charging. Every now and then a special case comes up and while I do need to earn a living, to be able to offer someone in need some help to keep a dog in their home or support a new rescue, or a dog truly stuck in survival mode, then I hope to be able to do that on occasion.

It would be good to not leave myself struggling when I need to take a week for a course, or dare I dream - a holiday!

All of this works towards a future where I can help more dogs and their humans on a deeper level (think dog therapy, and repairing from loss, trauma and past incidents, and natural resilient puppy raising), in hope that a greater understanding of dog language and understanding can become more commonplace and accepted in the dog community.

I will be updating and adjusting my other services over the coming weeks.

https://www.dogvergent.co.uk/support-sessions

23/05/2026
Absolutely this 💜
23/05/2026

Absolutely this 💜

It genuinely worries me when a well-known “trainer” speaks as though not walking a reactive dog for a period of time is somehow abusive, as if every dog benefits from being pushed out into the world before their nervous system is ready.

Behaviour does not exist in isolation. A dog’s ability to cope with the world is built through development, attachment, emotional regulation, and nervous system maturation. Dogs are not born emotionally finished. The brain develops through experience, and when a dog has spent months or years living in fear, hypervigilance, frustration, or chronic stress, their entire nervous system can become organised around survival. These are not “stubborn” dogs refusing walks. These are dogs whose brains have adapted to a world they experience as unsafe.

You cannot repair a survival-based nervous system through more overwhelm. Development does not happen through panic. Healing does not happen through flooding. The brain changes through repeated experiences of safety, connection and co-regulation. That is how new neural pathways form. That is how the nervous system slowly learns that it no longer has to live in defence mode. When people talk about decompression or temporarily reducing walks for reactive dogs, the goal is not isolation or punishment. The goal is to reduce the constant activation of the stress system long enough for the dog’s brain and body to come out of survival and become capable of learning again.

What is frightening is seeing people with large platforms mock this without any real understanding of development or behaviour science. You cannot keep repeatedly throwing a dog into environments that trigger fear, rage, or panic and expect the nervous system to magically “work out the world is safe.” For many dogs, repeated exposure without regulation simply rehearses the fear pathways further. This is how you create chronic stress patterns and learned helplessness. A dog shutting down is not the same as a dog healing. Compliance is not emotional recovery.

The irony is that we understand this perfectly well in humans. If a child with trauma or SEN was constantly overwhelmed by sensory input, fear, unpredictability, or emotional distress, no compassionate professional would say, “just force them into it every day until they get over it.” We understand that development requires safety. We understand that emotional regulation is built relationally through connection with a safe other. We understand that the care system shapes executive functioning, emotional resilience, and the ability to tolerate stress. Yet somehow, when it comes to dogs, people still push the outdated idea that more exposure and more pressure automatically creates confidence.

A dog living in survival is not being helped by being repeatedly pushed beyond capacity. They need nervous system recovery. They need connection. They need to experience life at a level they can actually process without falling back into defence states. Sometimes that means quieter walks, sometimes it means different environments, and sometimes it means temporarily stopping walks altogether while the brain settles and safety is rebuilt. That is not cruelty. In many cases, it is the very thing that allows healing to begin.

The most dangerous thing in dog training is not ignorance on its own, it is ignorance combined with certainty. Especially when it dismisses developmental science, attacks professionals trying to advocate for regulation and welfare, and encourages owners to ignore what their dog’s nervous system is clearly communicating. Behaviour is not just about what a dog does. It is about what state their brain and body are living in underneath it. Until people understand that, they will keep mistaking survival for disobedience, shutdown for progress, and overwhelm for rehabilitation.

23/05/2026

We see it constantly in groups, on feeds.

People looking for answers.

Trying to address a behaviour not yet understood.

The answers always the same:

🙋🏼‍♀️ More exercise
🙋🏼‍♀️ More mental stimulation
🙋🏼‍♀️ More sleep
🙋🏼‍♀️ More training
🙋🏼‍♀️ More DOING DOING DOING

We humans, we do love our doing!

To not be doing can often feel like not being useful, not being enough, not being of value.

What about simply being?

With no perceived attachment of self worth? No agenda?

Feeling safe enough in ourselves to let go of the need for doing.

To simply BE.

That's the hard part. That's the part we struggle with. That's the part that feels unsafe at first.

That's the part our dogs are seeking.

The part they're asking for. Trying to teach US.

When we reframe what we see:

👀 Attention seeking
👀 Demand barking
👀 Excessive/obsessive behaviours
👀 Destructive behaviours
👀 The ‘too much’ behaviours

and see it all for what it is:

🫂 Connection Seeking 🫂

A need for emotional support, co-regulation, understanding, communication.

A need as vital as water, food, shelter, oxygen…

A need many of us may not have received fully ourselves, not in a way that truly supported us.

A need we can learn to recognise, learn to offer.

That's the path to secure attachment, relationship, communication & life long success with your dog - not only the one you live with now, but every dog that shares your life in the future.

A life skill that benefits you, your dog, your family, your world. 💜

When the butt scratches are really good! 🐺
21/05/2026

When the butt scratches are really good!

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21/05/2026

Connection is a biological need, just like food, water, air, warmth...

Our dogs need this. More than training. More than treats.

This isn't simply love. Love does not equal connection.

If you're not sure how, this is what the Hemene approach I work with teaches. 💜

Quick selfie with bog boy Jackson.  Last walk of the week before I head to Cornwall! I have the privilege of spending th...
15/05/2026

Quick selfie with bog boy Jackson.

Last walk of the week before I head to Cornwall!

I have the privilege of spending this weekend and most of next week at The Wolf and Dog Development Centre learning from the inspiring Shaun Ellis and amazing Kim, and our greatest teachers, the wolves 💜🐺💜

Cannot wait to arrive and see everyone, and increase my knowledge about myself, wolves and dogs to better support everyone I work with.

Signal is limited where we are, but I will get back to people as and when suitable if messaged - it may be a day or two between checking in 😊

Have a wonderful weekend!

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