
10/09/2025
Celebrating Tilly’s 25 birthday! This post is in honour of my Tilly, much loved by so many. 😊
A few years ago I remember standing on the sidelines towards the end of a long jumping lesson at my daughter’s pony club camp on a hot summers day. There was an awful lot of shouting. There were tears from some of the youngsters. And there was … “Can you get that fat lazy lump of a pony over that jump - she’s taking the mick!” directed at Tilly and daughter. I didn’t say any thing (mum it’s fine!) but that afternoon brought up a lot of questions for me as to what we are teaching our young people.
For me, describing a horse’s reaction in human terms is not helpful. Horses don’t think like we do. They don’t have the brain capacity for human-style reasoning or plotting. Their brains are smaller (especially the neocortex, which in humans is responsible for logic and rational thought), and they live almost entirely in the present.
A horse’s responses are driven by the limbic system — the part of the brain that governs survival, flight, and emotional reactions. Every spook, buck, nap, cow kick, nip, or bolt is not about defiance, it’s about self-preservation. Sometimes this is in response to a perceived threat or confusion, and at other times it can be due to pain or discomfort. Horses are prey animals, finely tuned to notice the smallest change in their environment, and their first line of defence will always be to move away from what doesn’t feel safe.
When we interpret horse behaviour in human terms, it rarely leads to resolution. But when we recognise negative behaviour as instinctive — reflecting how horses (prey/flight animals) might feel during their time with us (predators) and this might include fear, pain, worry, alert, high adrenaline — and acknowledge it for what it is, we can start to identify the real cause and find solutions.
When we understand this, we see that what looks like a “negative” response isn’t calculated at all. It’s simply a horse doing what its instincts tell it to do in that moment.
When we change how we “see” behaviour, everything about our relationship with horses can change too. 😊
Anyone else had a lightbulb moment where understanding your horse’s reaction changed how you responded?