06/07/2026
Anticipatory Grief *warning end of life discussions*
I'll be honest, I hadn't known there was a term for this phase of pet ownership. Whilst I grew up with pets, their care and responsibility was not on my shoulders, and so I hadn't fully experienced the level of emotion that has come as my girls have reached double digits and entered their later senior years.
The ache of missing them while they're still here. Tears that come after you notice a slight shift. The worry about tomorrow, even as you try to stay present and enjoy today. It can be REALLY tough.
Life expectancy of course depends on species and breed, and is always a guide. I'm grateful my two spaniels seem to be fairing well in their journey's, but I'm constantly aware of time being against us now.
Subtle shifts creep up slowly, and with good awareness and support, are easier to manage. The more sudden ones can feel like your world crumbles in an instant.
If you're feeling this, I'm here to tell you you're not alone. Anticipatory grief is a reflection of deep love and compassion, and it is not something to feel guilty about.
Along the way we have implemented medication, physical and complimentary therapies to help with mobility and day to day life.
Lately, I reached out to a vet to come to the house and prepare for end of life arrangements. This was difficult, but in doing so it's meant that, when the time comes, I will know that I've done what I can.
A quality of life assessment is a very good way of tracking your pets welfare as you all navigate trickier times. Having arranged the visit, to have met the vet, and chatted through things thoroughly before they are needed was hugely reassuring for me. Services like these are so valuable.
Outside of this, my biggest advice: Celebrate the ordinary moments. Sit with them a little longer. Tell them they're a good dog, over and over again. They may not understand every word, but they know our love.
Our senior dogs teach us that every day is a gift. The best thing we can do is meet them where they are, love them fully, and make every moment count.
If you're walking this journey, my heart is with you. ❤️
Photo credit: Claire | Bristol Family Photographer