11/06/2025
Why I’ll Never Call Myself a “Balanced Trainer” or any other label - A Real Conversation About Tools, Trust, and Teaching
Let’s talk about something that sparks more debate than it probably should: training tools.
Prong collars. Slip leads. Head halters. E-collars.
Some trainers swear by them. Others swear them off.
And somewhere in between is where I live — the space where ethics, experience, and individual dogs matter more than labels.
The conversation around tools has become black-and-white, but dogs don’t live in black-and-white worlds. They live in context, emotion, and relationship. So, when I say I’m a fear-free, relationship-first trainer who sometimes uses a prong or an e-collar, people assume that’s a contradiction. It’s not.
It’s about how we use a tool, why we use it, and what the dog experiences while it’s being used.
LIMA and the Bigger Picture
I train through LIMA principles — Least Intrusive, Minimally Aversive.
That doesn’t mean “no tools, ever.” It means we start with the gentlest, clearest option that helps a dog learn without creating fear or confusion.
Before I ever touch equipment, I’m looking at the whole system:
• Is the dog physically comfortable?
• Are we in the right environment for learning?
• Does the handler have the skill to use this tool correctly?
• Is the dog’s stress level low enough to take in information?
• Is there medical concerns that could be contributing to this dogs behavior?
Only when I’ve considered those factors do I decide whether a tool is worth attempting. The goal is never control; it’s communication.
Too often, both trainers and owners skip this analysis and jump straight to “we need more pressure.”
A dog doesn’t respond to leash tension? Tighten the collar.
A recall fails? Crank the e-collar.
That mindset is the opposite of LIMA — it’s reaction instead of reflection.
The Problem With Cheap Equipment
Let’s also talk about quality, because not all tools are created equal.
There’s a world of difference between a well-engineered system like a Dogtra or Mini Educator and a $40 knock-off from Amazon.
High-quality collars have smooth, consistent levels of stimulation and precise control. With Kairo’s Dogtra, I can set the stimulation so low that humans can’t even feel it — yet it’s still meaningful to him. And I know that if it's set at a specific level, it stays at that specific level, and that it's consistent across the board
That’s communication, not coercion. - and I can probably count on one hand the amount of times i've used it within the last 6 months.
Is it still negative reinforcement? Absolutely it is. And pretending its anything other than that is disingenuous and dangerous.
Cheap devices, on the other hand, can spike, skip levels, and deliver inconsistent output. They don’t teach; they confuse. And when confusion is paired with discomfort, what the dog learns is fear, not clarity.
Not only that, but the lowest levels of stimulation on a cheap collar are mid to high range on a properly engineered one.
If you’re going to use a tool, invest in equipment that allows for finesse — not force.
The same goes for prong collars too, if your not using a Hermspringer, your wrong - and quite bluntly so.
Additionally - there's a whole conversation to be had about proper fit, connection, saftey clips and a level of nuance here that is far too much for this individual post.
Pressure Isn’t the Enemy — Confusion Is
Pressure, when used correctly, isn’t inherently bad.
Dogs apply pressure to one another all the time through body language and proximity. What matters is how predictable and fair that pressure is.
In good training, pressure is a cue — not a threat. It’s light, clear, and paired with the opportunity to make a better choice. The dog learns that their behavior controls the outcome. When we start adding unpredictable or overwhelming pressure, learning stops and self-protection begins.
That’s where many (not all) “balanced” approaches lose their footing. They rely on adversity rather than analysis. They use the same solution — more pressure — for every problem, instead of considering the emotional, environmental, and relational factors driving the behavior.
And I can tell you, I could probably list ten to fifteen of my clients, if handed off to another trainer who would quite happily dial up the pressure, these dogs would climb up one side of them and down the other.
Because not every dog can handle pressure, or similar types of pressure.. And it's unrealistic to expect them to.
My Own Evolution
If I could go back and start Kairo’s training all over again, I’d make different choices.
Not because I regret the tools I used, but because I understand so much more now about how subtle the communication can be.
These days, I take more tools off than I put on.
That’s not a moral stance; it’s just the natural result of better communication and trust. When understanding deepens, the need for layers between you and the dog fades.
That’s also why I don’t call myself a balanced trainer.
Because “balanced” has come to mean way too many things, to too many people who often use the label to hide compulsion.
It's all too common, and unfortunately, talking about it has landed me in "hot water" with certain camps of the training sphere.
That’s not my balance. I'd much rather talk about things openly, and explain my logic, then demonize an entire subset of equipment, just because I prefer not to use it.
Isn't that the goal?
My balance is empathy and evidence. Clarity and compassion.
It’s a practice of constant evaluation, not a "one size fits all".
The other thing to factor in too, that I never hear talked about is that some dogs consider different things, and different forms of pressure, far more adversive than others.
A prime example would be my own dog, who considers martingale collars exceptionally adverse to the point of extreme annoyance and discomfort, but a flat collar or a prong? No problem.
And as for pressure on a harness, he doesn't even acknowledge it. He will stand there and blink at you.
I think the part of the problem that became harmful is that so many people use these tools as blanket solutions across the board for multiple dogs and multiple faucets of behavior, and that's just not reality. It becomes dangerous for the general public and the dogs they are trying to help.
Far too often, tools are used to treat the symptoms of behavior, instead of the actual cause.
That's why you'll often see my clients on various different equipment, and you'll see that we don't change equipment immediately, we might change it on session three, or even 5, because we are consistently evaluating and determining what the best option is for the dog in front of us.
And furthermore, I outright refuse to put any equipment on a dog that the client doesn't COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND - both on a theory standpoint, and practical use - standpoint.
The Heart of It
Fear-free doesn’t mean permissive.
Pressure doesn’t mean punishment.
Tools aren’t the problem. Misunderstanding is.
Rushing the process of analysis is too.
When we stop arguing about the hardware and start analyzing the experience, dogs win.
Because ethical training isn’t about proving a point — it’s about protecting the learner.
That’s the kind of balance I believe in.
I actively reject labels because I don't fit in either extreme. - I just choose the lowest possible adversity always.