
07/29/2025
“Don’t Do That!”, But What Can the Dog Do?
Why Saying ‘No’ Isn’t Enough in Dog Training
Let’s be honest, most of us are experts at telling our dogs what not to do.
“Don’t jump!”
“Stop barking!”
“Leave that!”
“Oi! Get off the sofa!”
“Don’t pull!”
“Don’t eat that poo!”
Sound familiar?
It’s like we’ve become the party-poopers at the canine carnival, constantly shouting “No!” as if that word alone will unlock some divine understanding of what we actually want our dogs to do. But here’s the rub: dogs aren’t mind readers. (If they were, the fridge would have been emptied and the postman permanently traumatised years ago.)
And herein lies the problem.
We’re incredibly skilled at identifying and reacting to behaviours we don’t like, but far less proficient at clearly communicating what we do want instead. This creates an information void. And in that void? Confusion, frustration, conflict… and eventually, a poisoned “No.”
The Problem with “No” on Repeat
Let’s break it down. Imagine you’ve just started a new job. You’re sat at your desk, trying to figure out what’s expected of you. You send an email, your manager barks, “Don’t do that!” So you try making a phone call, “No, not that either!” You open a spreadsheet, “Definitely not that!” And all the while, you’re sitting there wondering, Well what the hell am I supposed to be doing then?
That’s how your dog feels.
If every interaction is a correction without direction, your dog becomes unsure, hesitant, and possibly anxious. They might test other behaviours to try and please you, or they might shut down altogether. And over time, “No” stops being a useful interrupter and starts being interpreted as, “You’re always wrong.”
The “No” Becomes Poisoned
In the early stages of training, “No” should simply mark an unwanted behaviour, not punish the dog, not shame them, and certainly not scare them. But if it’s used constantly, without follow-up guidance or a clear alternative, it becomes a sound the dog associates with negativity… or worse, with you. They learn to tune it out or brace themselves for conflict. Either way, the communication between human and dog starts to fray.
Dogs thrive on clarity, structure, and understanding. Without those, they don’t see you as a reliable leader, they see you as unpredictable, inconsistent, and hard to please.
So What Should We Do Instead?
Here’s the golden rule:
Don’t just tell the dog what not to do, show them what to do instead.
And make it worth their while.
We’re not saying “No” is bad. It’s essential that dogs learn boundaries and that there are certain behaviours that aren’t acceptable. But unless we balance that with clear, consistent alternatives, the dog is left to guess. And they’re usually wrong. (Sorry, Fido.)
Examples:
• Don’t pull on the lead?
Great. But have you shown your dog where you want them to walk, what pace you expect, and rewarded them heavily when they get it right?
• Don’t jump on people?
Super. But have you taught a reliable ‘sit to greet’ behaviour and consistently reinforced calm greetings with praise or treats?
• Don’t steal from the worktop?
Fine. But have you provided a solid “Place” command, or redirected their nosey habits with food puzzles and structured activities?
• Don’t chew the sofa?
Fair. But have you given them an outlet for that need to gnaw, such as a frozen Kong, a beef tendon, or something more constructive than the arm of your IKEA furniture?
Think in Pairs: “You Can’t Do That, But You Can Do This”
Here’s a handy little mental exercise: every time you correct or interrupt your dog, ask yourself, “What can I offer instead?”
Let’s turn your “No” into a two-part sentence:
• “No, you can’t jump on visitors. But yes, you can sit nicely and get a biscuit.”
• “No, you can’t bark out the window all day. But yes, you can lie on your mat and chew your toy.”
• “No, you can’t pull ahead. But yes, you can walk beside me and sniff when I cue you to do so.”
Dogs aren’t trying to wind you up. They’re simply navigating a human world with canine instincts. If we give them nothing but barriers, they’ll eventually stop trying to engage. But if we offer structure, direction, and positive reinforcement, they’ll not only get it, they’ll want to do it.
Communication, Not Condemnation
Training is a conversation, not a lecture. It’s about back-and-forth understanding. The clearer we are, the more confident our dogs become. And confident dogs? They’re calmer, more focused, and much more fun to live with.
So next time your instinct is to shout “No!”, take a breath and ask yourself:
• “Have I taught the dog what I actually want?”
• “Have I practised it enough in a low-distraction environment?”
• “Have I made that behaviour rewarding enough to make it worth their effort?”
If the answer’s “No,” then maybe it’s not the dog that needs correcting. Maybe it’s the plan.
Final Thoughts
If dogs could talk, some of them would probably say,
“Look, mate, I’m not being naughty, I’m just winging it because no one gave me a flipping manual.”
So, let’s stop making “No!” our first, middle, and final training tool. Let’s start showing our dogs what they can do, not just what they can’t. Clarity builds confidence. Confidence builds reliability. And a confident, reliable dog? That’s a joy to live with.
Now off you pop, go teach your dog something useful… like how not to photobomb your Zoom meetings.
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