02/27/2024
The power of video....
Since I moved Hudson's Hounds online a few years ago and decided to focus primarily on complex behaviors, I have been asking my clients to send me video. In fact, I used to ask for video even prior to this, since my presence during in person sessions often affected both my client and their dog's behaviors.
The best thing about video, is that WE (client and consultant) can watch it repeatedly, slow it down, speed it up, turn the volume off, etc etc. It really is an invaluable tool for working through difficult behaviors to ensure that we are seeing the whole picture.
Now, while this is great for my clients, I often forget about how important it can be for me too - for my boys in our home just day to day doing our thing.
When I engage with my boys, I often don't have my "behavior consultant geek" hat on. I have my "dog mom" hat on. I'm not watching for much these days now that Barret and Jackson have a much better relationship. I still watch for subtle signs and signals from Barret considering how sensitive he is, but I'm not breaking everything down the way I used to.
So today, I'm sitting on the couch eating some fruit, sharing pieces of apple with Barret (Jackson only likes his apple dehydrated because he's Jackson). You'll see Barret drop what was in his mouth then just sit there, essentially waiting for me to pick it up and give it to him again. You'll hear me laughing at him because I obviously thought it was cute and hilarious.
THEN....I reviewed the video and changed hats.
When Barret used to fight with Jackson, one of my strategies for working through it was to teach Barret to remove himself from potentially stressful situations. An example of this, was keeping him from greeting me at the front door first, or laying closest to whatever piece of furniture I was on. If he had access to me first, he would begin to guard me from our other dogs, specifically Jackson.
So while teaching him how to identify a potential situation and then remove himself from it, he was learning to adapt to his ever changing environment and also how to avoid conflict. Conflict is expensive. It's unnecessary until it's absolutely necessary.
Fast forward to today.....
Barret took a moment that could have been dripping in conflict and chose to avoid it. When that piece of apple fell from his mouth, he knew that it was possible Jackson would enter into his space. He chose to stay but also chose NOT to lower his head, growl and guard that piece of apple.
If I could do this over again I wouldn't have laughed at him for being "cute and hilarious" I would have told him what a smart boy he was, picked up the apple and lured him a little further from Jackson so that be could finish it without worrying about what Jackson might do - which would have only been Jackson taking it since it was on the floor.
The power of video.
I was reminded today that we can ALL become complacent, especially after things are going well... especially after they've been going well for a long time. Barret is a trooper and always makes peaceful choices these days, however, it's still MY job to keep him feeling safe enough to make those choices. That's the responsibility I signed up for as his guardian. His dog mom. His protector and treat deliverer 🐾🩵
So if you are a client of mine and I ask for video, this is why. It's also my job to help YOU see and understand the big picture. All of the hard work has to come from you, your dog's guardian and protector. All I can do is help you through the weeds of it all :)
Now go ahead and watch the video...it's ok if you see "cute and hilarious" too, because seriously, look at him ;) The freckles win every time.